Brother

[jennyjoan]

Either or or - if you are not well yourself - and the brother needs aftercare ie care home - would you take him home yourself and care for him.

No, not me - all my brothers are dead. Just an opinion on a friend of mine.

[wolf63]

no, I have enough trouble looking after myself.

It also depends on the relationship that the siblings have.

I love my brother deeply but I would end up killing him if we had to spend any length of time together.

[THECORBYLOON]

If the other person is not well, is he or she likely to be able to provide adequate care and not worsen both of their conditions?

[pastafreak]

If I was fit and physically able...maybe. But I'm well aware that it would take over my life and possibly weaken and tire me. I think in such a situation people should take advantage of any and all help available.

[jennyjoan]

thanks for opinions, this friend has had cancer and removal of both breasts, lymphnodes, but is unreasonable to talk to at the mo - so I'm not going there.

Bro has been in hospital for 3 months and it is time for him to get 24 hour care - she had some fight a social worker and (I don't know what it is about) - but via it all she has now decided to take him home.

Her and him will deffo clash. Friend wouldn't have the patience in the world. I am too afraid to ask her detailed questions why this has happened and she is too cross so I'm leaving that alone. However a hospital bed has been organised and furniture has been removed from the room to go to her room and it should all be happenining next week. She will kill him before it is over (like I'm joking here). Do think she is out of her mind. the brother has rallied from 12 weeks ago (dying) and he has rallied round great that he can walk and clean his teeth.

Also (again I couldn't ask) but he is being denied a care package because I think he has too much money (very unsure about that bit).

There will be MURDER SHE WROTE at the end of this.

[roopower]

It would depend hugely on my circumstances eg my health and if my home was adequate ( room downstairs if brother unable to do stairs), do I have time (work, interests). Mostly I think the question is would we rub along ok or get on each others nerves? Lots of things to think about.

[THECORBYLOON]

Don't worry about them, its your pal's choice so leave them to get on with it.

[Hazlinny]

Don't think "being denied a care package because he has too much money" can be true. I knew a very wealthy person who received 4 carers a day via Social Work Department.

[jennyjoan]

have no intention worrying about them CBL - she is a person who will do her own thing anyway, extremely brainy but not streetwise.

I visited the brother in hospital two weeks ago and he had her dancing - ie - "my wish is your command". Two like-minded individuals.

[jennyjoan]

Haz - she was too upset talking about that and of course me being deaf-lugs I couldn't hear too well so I didn't want to ask her again.