Is Maintaining A Stiff Upper Lip Healthier?

[naomi24]

The commonly-held belief that attempting to suppress negative thoughts is bad for our mental health could be wrong, a new study from scientists at the University of Cambridge suggests.

 

https://www.cam.ac.uk/research/news/suppressing-negative-thoughts-may-be-good-for-mental-health-after-all-study-suggests

 

Well?

[ladybirder]

I feel much better after a good moan.

[douglas9401]

This will be suppressed by wet-eyed drama queens who live to be 'traumatised' by the slightest bump in the road as their meaningless life rolls on.

 

Bring back national service. 😂

[naomi24]

I've always thought talking about problems encourages the troubled to dwell on issues rather than work to move on.  I've never been a great fan of counselling.  I suppose it can be beneficial to some but I suspect it often does more harm than good.

[douglas9401]

Aye, wallowing may be best left to hippos.

[andy-hughes]

I don't think there is a 'one size fits all' answer here, it's very nuchal down to the individual as to the best way to deal with stress and difficulties. 

The typical English 'type' is the 'Make a cuppa and get on with it', but as we move forward as a culture, we are more aware that for many, keeping feelings hidden is damaging.

There is, and always will be, a section of society who use this better understanding as carte blanche to become self-obsessed drama queen's, and unfortunately, extremes in any behaviour get the most attention.

I think we have to be willing to accept the differences in each other, and try and ensure that everyone has access to help if needed. 

[naomi24]

//as we move forward as a culture, we are more aware that for many, keeping feelings hidden is damaging.//

 

But this neew study is disputing that.  That's the whole point of the thread.

[Ken4155]

Bit like holding a fart in. Sooner or later..... K A B O O M!

 

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[Peter Pedant]

I don't think there is a 'one size fits all' answer here,

all the research on talking therapy founders - alot of people find talking about it, lessens the strain and pain - - but a few find that it  reinforces and worsens the injury.

[Peter Pedant]

a section of society who use this better understanding as carte blanche to become self-obsessed drama queen's,

I dont think you can predict who will worsened by talking therapy - or else there would be papers talking about the criteria to use to find the patients where it wont work. 

[Zacs-Master]

Andy's Man Club will be devastated if this is true. 
 

 

[barry1010]

Counselling can be very good where negative thoughts cause OCD or self-harm, it can help break the cycle.

Bereavement counselling helps a lot of people come to terms with their loss.

Counselling helped me cope with trauma years ago but I knew when I had had enough.

It doesn't suit everyone and for some it really is an indulgence.  I know someone who has paid for counselling twice a week for more than 30 years.  I really think a couple of good walks would do him more good.

Burn outs and breakdowns are real and maybe counselling before it gets to that could help.

 

 

[ladybirder]

My doctor sent me for Bereavement Counselling a few months after my son died.  Her reply to everything I said was, "But he's dead, he's DEAD!". I left before I lost my temper.  I've forgotten much in my life now but not her, I remember her like it was yesterday, not 28 years ago.

[naomi24]

I wouldn't forget that either. LB.  That really is absolutely appalling.  

[choux]

lb - (((((x)))))

[ladybirder]

Thank you Naomi and Choux.  I probably should have told my doctor what happened but I didn't.  Wish I had.

[barry1010]

That is shocking, lb

[ladybirder]

Barry I don't think she said anything other than those words after we had greeted each other.  She just kept repeating them.  I was more upset when I came out than when I went in.  

[anneasquith]

It is never too late to have councilling re a traumatic event .

[ladybirder]

How do you make sure you're not getting an idiot like I did?  I'm assuming my doctor didn't know what she was like.

[anneasquith]

Well you don't, but I'd say the support services have improved. 
there are many support groups , maybe try Cruise to begin with ( its online).