Ways to tell mum...

[richb14]

I have a boyfriend and i've recently told my parents im confused about my sexuality, but now im gay, but i only wanna tell my mum i have a b/f cause my dad would flip, he went crazy when i told him i was confused.Im 15 and would like to tell my parents tongiht, not only cause my b/f's told his dad today, but also cause i dont like lying to them. Thanx Rich

[snook]

Just try to tell them, both of them, and together, if possible. You could speak to your mum first and explain what you intend saying, just to prepare her so she can smooth things over with your dad if he gets upset. You're making the effort to be honest with them, which is really important, and they should really appreciate that. If your dad 'flips', he'll get over it.

Also, you might want to take on board that, at 15, you may still be a bit confused about your sexuality, although I'm sure you feel totally convinced about being gay. At 15 we all feel like we know the score, we know better than our parents, we know the answer to the meaning of life, etc., but the truth is that 15 is still very young. At that age, you're still developing, not only physically, but mentally and emotionally.

So don't be too hard on your dad, he's only looking out for you, aware that (sad to say, I know) you're still just a kid. And don't be hard on yourself either - you're trying to sort out a major situation, and you're not being sneaky or secretive about it, but being frank and honest.

I hope it all goes well for you. Don't let it cause a split in the family, you'll live to regret it. Stay calm and try, at all times, to see the other person's point of view, and to let them know that you do (that's good advice in any situation, but specially so when you're dealing with your parents, who deserve your respect most of all).

[tradey]

hi rich, please dont keep it from them,my bro kept it from my parents then when my dad died he told my mum,i knew but he wouldnt let me tell them,at the end of the day youve not go two heads it doesnt change you as person and they may respect you for telling the truth parents always find it hard not cos they dont care but of what people may think,we are so proud of bro he can be himself at last and not live a lie like he did for years he was scarred of what my dad would say but come on a parents love for there child is priceless take a deep breath be brave and tell them good luck rich

[Alex-Jay]

i think that you should tell them when you think you are ready too. remember that you are in complete control and that you don't have too tell your parents just because your boyfriend has (it may well be that "your boyfriend" had a father that already knew about him) but that dosn't mean you have too aswell.

just do me a favour and wait till you are completely certain about things...

Love yoo lots and lots like mash potato

Alex

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[Nickynoodles]

Oh bless your heart - I am a mum and I couldnt care less what sexuality my boys are - as long as they are happy - I would hate to think they could'nt talk to me. I think everyone has answered you sympathetically and probably by their own experiences - It may be a shock but ultimately you should tell them. good luck x x x x