Would a reasonable wife be offended?

[Hgrove]

Les us assume a wife tells her husband (sitting in an armchair, facing telly) that she wants to talk to him. He answers "just make your point quickly". If you were the wife, would you be cross?

[Supernick]

It does seem a tad rude, but without knowing the tone it's hard to tell. Did the husband even break eyeline from the TV? Was the impression given that this was a 'serious talk'? If it was it definitely sounds rude.

[gilby]

i would be offended!!! You would be doing your own washing, cooking, ironing for a while!!!

[Hgrove]

just to clarify, I am female.

[rampart]

Is he watching sports? Perhaps while he's in the middle of something, it is not a good time to start a conversation. His tone was not quite polite, I'd say, but then he was interrupted.

And....everyone knows that when a conversation starts with I would like to talk to you that it is not likely to be something pleasant....

Hope it works out for you.

[mimififi]

I would be offended! We don't have a telly per se, but I get the same thing with my husbands infernal Blackberry....."Yes yes what is it? I'm re-organising my in-box/emailing India/checking the outage...."and so on.

Sometimes I could swing for him and I fear my aim might be mercilessly accurate.

I know how you feel.

[boobesque]

well my bloke would be sleeping on the sofa for the night if he said it in a rude manner!

[BigMac]

Context is all.

If as explained above then cross would be in order.

If the fifth interruption when he's politely asked not to be disturbed - even (or especially) when watching sport, or listening to the news - then no.

[Iz66]

yes i would be offended and probably turn the telly off and sit infront of it so he would listen! hahaha

[Peri]

There are lots of questions to be answered here. Does he do that all the time. If you were watching something would you do the same. I think it would depend on my mood and how important the subject I wanted to talk about was.

[joko]

it was rude yes, but was it his favourite show? was it half way through and he was enjoying it? in that case you were rude too.

If you do it then, you have instantly got his back up - he knows he's in for a telling off or a nagging or whatever and is instantly going to be on the defensive

whatever you had to say has already got off to a bad start and is not going to be resolved and likely to turn into a row.

Though it does depend on how urgent the talk is - can it wait 10 minutes until the end of the show? or is it life and death urgent?

choose your moments

[saffyj]

you have to read men are from mars, women are from venus.it will explain everything.in a nutshell, men are completely different from us.when we want to "talk" they usually arent in that mode.its not that they dont care.its just not the right time for him.i would have taken that personally too, beleive me, but after reading that book, i must admit, in theory i can understand men a little better.I wont go into it anymore in case i get anyone's hackles up lol.

[Hgrove]

Thanks for the replies.

[tigga]

next time he says 'make your point quickly' - say "im going with the girls to watch the chippendales, bye love" and see how quickly he turns around !! ha ha

[Eels]

Aside from the flowery 'Men are from Mars ...' crap (they're not, it's just their excuse for being *********), even if you WERE interrupting his favourite TV show or whatever, it wouldn't have taken much effort on his part to politely say "I'm really engrossed in this programme right now, do you mind if it waits ten minutes?".

In this house I'd have got really annoyed that he didn't drop everything when I asked him to, but then that's just because I'm unreasonable by nature.

[dotjhawkes]

I wouldn't make the approach so technically flawed, position is everything. I would have walked in front of the TV, switched it off, turned to him with arms crossed, (tucking the rolling pin under my arm) and just glared, sometimes in a marriage there is no need for mere words.

[Scarlett]

Yes, very rude. Give him a slap! This shows total lack of respect and consideration. If that were me I would swoop out and not speak to him until he treated me with some respect.

[Hgrove]

Thanks for the replies. By the way if I could find a time when he is not watching telly I would speak to him then... but there isn't.

[maggie01]

I often speak to my husband's right ear. Can't say I always get a reply though.

[Drisgirl]

Fuming

[Dreaming]

Cut the plug off the tv