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picture the scenario
you are happily married with three children that you adore and you live in the house that you inherited .Your wife gets a new job.She falls in love with one of the employees.She does not admit that she is having an affair and you do not know what the hell's going on.After months she admits her affair and say she wants a divorce.You naturally fight this in court and the court because she is a woman gives her custody of the children you are kicked out of your house that you inherited it from your parents and she moves in to live with her lover.You live in a dingy flat that you can't bring your children to and you have to pay 1/3 of your salary in maintenance. Your health is very low and you suffer a breakdown.You have a huge legal fees Where is the justice in this.why I do not completely agree with the fathers for justice ways of doing things I do think their concerns are justified in need to be addressed .
I think that the just thing would have been for the woman to have been kicked out of the house and custody awarded to the father and for her to pay maintenance to him.but I'm afraid that is not the way it is today so prospective husbands beware there is a lot to be said for remaining single. Don't think it is the worst option I know what I would do if I had my time againwherein
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I was divorced 9 years ago. my boys still with my ex wife are now subject to psychologist after psychologist.
She is incapable.
It is a long road ahead for you to travel, you need to look to the distant future and let the love of your children and the love you have for your children try to ease the pain.
Live for them if you cannot live for yourself.
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Take care
I'm so sorry to hear your sad story jj & I'm amazed that you have been asked to leave the house that you inherited! If you had the funds, there must be a good solicitor out there, who can look into that side of things for you.
I do hope in time things will improve for you & wish you all the best for a happier future.
P.S. I don't know how your wife & her 'boyfriend' can live with themselves - they obviously deserve each other.
Your situation is dreadful and I'm sorry to hear about it. My other half went through a very similar situation and is still very hurt by it.
Are you strong enough to bring a civil case against her? There is absolutely no way she should have been able to keep the house and move her lover in.
Keep in mind the love you have with your children.
As a divorced woman myself I do not agree with mothers always getting full custody. I'm of the mindset that you take from a marriage exactly what you took into it and nothing more than that. In this day and age prenups should be made a legal requirement. My current partner and I have agreed that we'll have one drawn up should we decide to marry.
Good luck, I hope this all works out for you
I echo what's been said above, i have no direct experience of this and cannot offer any advice.
All I can say is please know that not all women are like this, you've been unlucky (putting it mildly). Not all women are out for what they can get and out to do men over.
She sounds like a **** (I star'd that out myself) Don't give up honey, i think it must be hard for you to imagine life beyond this, but try and live it with some hope, if you do, things will come right for you in the end. You're better off (albeit not financially) without her.