sex

[happymeo]

How can you know about sex ability of a man without having sex with him?

[Morrisonker]

By asking other people he's slept with? Basically you can't. What's good for one person isn't for another.

[Toureman]

Ask him, I bet you �100 he says he's good!

[Drisgirl]

A good snog is usually a good indication IMO

[Supernick]

Dancing? Sporting ability? Confidence? Not sure any of these are reliable really, and to be honest it just depends who you're with some of the time. I've come away from a one night stand thinking "God, I'm amazing", and other times thinking "That really didn't go well at all". So I'm not sure there are any trustworthy indicators!

[kick3m0n]

I don't think you can tell without having sex with him because it's not to do with the man's ability, but how the two of you work together. A guy could be a sex god to one female, but leave another cold. It's all about pressing the right buttons for each other, getting to that level of intensity and abandonment and desire that can just blow your mind. But, as Drisgirl points out, if you have a snog and you feel that electricty running through you, then it might be worth investigating further.....I've never yet wanted to sleep with someone who's kissing I hated, no matter how gorgeous etc they were.

[gammaray]

Who are you to judge what's good or what's not...!? It's rather selfish of you to only consider yourself. the question you should really ask is how do you know if YOU are any good...?

[helsbels666]

Get him on a dance floor

[Englishbird]

You can't, the most hobbit like men can turn out to be fantastic in bed!! lol, it's a nice surprise when it happens. And the most gorgeous man can turn out to be a complete let down. But as someone else said, we all like different things, so it's too personal to quantify.

[stevie_c2it]

big feet and rhythm.

[Drisgirl]

You must have a big nose then:).Possibly get in the way of a good snog!!

Rhythm - not my preferred method -bit messy:)

[Goodsoulette]

lol....drisgirl.... errr... im the opposite I dont mind the mess. I have only been disappointed once, after months of sexual tension (as he was married), it was just boring. You can always work on ability anyway, not really something I would worry about.

[Drisgirl]

Goudsoulette - sometimes the anticipation is actually more exciting than the deed - as we have probably all found out.(BTW -depends where the mess is :) or whose side!!!

[metagirl]

men who appear comfortable in their bodies are generally good in bed. also, the less "traditionally" attractive, the better they are in the sack - I've found. go figure.

[Drisgirl]

metagirl - I agree but you have to have the spark.Looks do not at all equate to anything - in fact they seem to think they have less to prove.I have sparked initially cos I'm on the same wavelength with them and then I love the sparks flying bit when no contact has been made like what kick said but you want to.

[metagirl]

mmmm....the spark - reminds me of a guy I once had a short (he had a gf!) but amazing "thing" with. Before we even touched we would "sense" eachother when we were in the same room. he was gorgeous so it didn't really follow my "ugly guy" = "good in bed" rule - but he definitely liked sex and had a pretty good knack for it! he grew up in Italy so maybe that was it?

[helsbels666]

For all the answers above, i find myself wondering WHY this question is all that important?! If you just want a man for sex then i presume you can try him out and if he isn't up to your mark then don't try again! IMove on! f however, you are asking this question with regards to getting into a longer term relationship then, in my experience its irrelevant as good sex alone does not make a relationship last. If you were to look for a man to have a deeper relationship with than just in the sack, the sex could be worked on!

[Drisgirl]

helsbels - it wasnt that important I suspect hence the answers.

[helsbels666]

thankd for clearing that up for me drisgirl

[metagirl]

hi helsbels666 - its only important when he's terrible. Like this guy who dated my friend - we called him the "clit" biter. it happens!

[Drisgirl]

LOL - metagirl