sex with my boy friend

[dazza1]

i am in a new relationship with my new guy (yes im gay) the trouble is that hes alot bigger than me and i feel a tad intimidated by the size difference. i have always been bigger than my previous b/f's so when it comes to undressing i always seem to turn my back on him, am i being stupid... secondly i get so aroused that i get very sensitive down below, any ideas how to ease this. nice answers plse... thankyou

[maximo]

Hi Dazza1 ! Well, you say you've generally been bigger than your past Bf's, so I don't think you have any reasons to feel uncomfortable ! Everyone is different, all shapes and size, as they say ! you should be confident about your body, as long as your partner respects you, you shouldn't have any reason to feel shy. As for the "sensitivity", maybe you could try to relax more, fool around, have a giggle...and use extra lubrication. You should always talk to your partner about any issues you're having. He probably has no idea, and like most men, will not know until you tell him. Make sure you stay safe, and have fun ! I know a new relationship can be a bit intimidating, but it will get better, and if you talk about your feelings, you'll feel much better about every aspect of it . X

[dazza1]

thankyou maximo, good advice there. im not a confident person about my body as im tall and slim. and cant seem to put on weight. but i will talk to him..ty. xx

[maximo]

You're welcome hon ! Good luck, and enjoy ! A new relationship is always great fun, even if a bit unsettling at times . x

[dazza1]

maximo.. ta hunni. by the way you male or f/male... not flirting....lol

ty babes..xxx

[maximo]

I'm female ! lol But I've had " a few " realtionships, so I sort of know what you're talking about ! x

[dazza1]

ty you babes.. thats good of you to respond. most apreaciated.... xxxxxxxx

[andy-hughes]

Hey dazza1 a lot of the guys on here will be pleased to read that such insecurities are not confined soley to straight men!

That aside, the rules still aply - if your partner is that bothered about your size, he is not the guy for you. I'm sure he has his own set of insecurities, it's part of being human, and part of a new relationship. Once you get comfortable witheach other, such things will cease to matter, so don;t let this be a stumbling block for the two of you. If it really bothers you, why not have a chat with him when the time is right - which will be 'after' rather than 'before', or maybe even away from the bedroom altogether.

As for your second issue, again this will resolve itself with practice and experience, just don;t let yourself get in a state about it. Talk it over with your partner, it will help to bring you closer.

Enjoy your new relationship - hope these responses have helped.