How do you know when it's over?

[whiskeysheri]

What are the main signs that your relationship is over?

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[princessfifi]

When u just dont care,u dont speak, dont argue u just walk around the house in silence getting on with your own lifes!

[malaise]

When being together is boring.

[whiffey]

A significant reduction in your sex life is the earliest danger sign.

[princessfifi]

Unless you have children whiffey

[GraceAnais]

i think princessfifi is right. i knew it was over when the only emotion my boyfriend could stir in me was boredom. no tears; no anger; nothing.

another sign is when you keep refering to the past.

A good relationship will refer to the past, present and future...but if you keep sayig 'if only things were like when we first met' or 'but we use to have good times' the it is time to book your ticket for Singleville!

[peterd]

When you don't look forward to seeing each other. Also agree with princessfifi's first answer

[Morrisonker]

I agree with GraceAnais, I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years about 6 weeks ago and it was mainly because I just didn't feel anything towards him, no attraction, excitement about seeing him etc. The opposite of love isn't hate, it's indifference which is much worse.

[teag1rl]

when, rather than rushing to his aid and picking him up, you laugh your ass off when your boyfriend falls off the kerb!! This is intended to make you smile whiskey :o) I'm afraid I'd be laughing if any boyf of mine did that too!

[Pippa68]

I think asking this question may be a bit of a sign ;o)

I don't think reduction in sex on it's own is a worry ~ this calms down in most relationships without signifying the end.

In my experience, you just *know*. I spent 3 weeks away from a partner & didn't think about him once. That was a good sign!

[mkt]

basically lack of communication and as most have said here a feeling of indifference. its not that you absolutely detest them its just.....nothing. cant be explained really but mostly you just know. like in the first instance when you knew it was love. another thing is in the beginning partners have little quirks and they're the things that you drive your friends mad with cos u think its cute. and then one day you realise its not cute and actually drives you nuts. that could be a sign too! and if you've started comparing them to exes etc....not good

[helsbels666]

when you start looking at other men/women AND wishing you were with them instead

[whiskeysheri]

teag1rl, had to laugh at loud (although crying inside). Thank you for that x

[rugeleyboy]

whiskeysheri!!! if your in need of a new fella from rugeley,just call my name!!!

but call it quietly cus the wife will be listening!!! {:~))

[whiskeysheri]

Thanks for making me smile rugeleyboy. I've probably walked past you in the street already and not even known it!

Keep this post quiet too ;-) x

[rugeleyboy]

if you have spent time in rugeley, you may have caught me glancing at you!!

[rugeleyboy]

if your friend says you look like a mix between all them girls i would say i would love to see you in rugeley!!

[Drisgirl]

When you are watching him eating and it irritates you.When you are out shopping and you look at him and you cant stand the look of him.

The major thing is without a doubt - is when you dont have a good old tonguer snog regularly without feeling embarrassed.

[rugeleyboy]

its bin 2 years since i had a frenchy with my missus!!

i think its cus the kids get in our bed at the crucial time??

[robbo82]

I'm not sure it's something you can define in words, it's just a feeling you get. I think Drisgirl put it best- little things that you'd never noticed before start to irritate you, and you begin to dread rather than look forward to seeing your partner.

I realise you posted this question a couple of days ago, so apologies if this comes too late; I'm sure deep down you know what to do. As cliched as it sounds, look deep inside yourself and I'm sure you'll know how you truly feel.

Remember, the ABers are always here for you!

[whiskeysheri]

Aw robbo, thanks, that's so sweet.

Rugeleyboy, LOL, get that bedroom door locked!

Thanks everyone. Everything you've said I kind of already knew, just needed it verifying- just a matter of time now. x