feel like life is passing me by

[Minxie]

I am an (i would say) an attractive woman. 44. My kids see thier dad (my ex husband) every other weekend, which leaves me here on my own. All my friends are married so dont want to go out. I spend my weekends alone, and feel life is passing me by. It gets me down. Who else is in the same situation?

[JustSia]

Minxie, *****************!!!

<Huge sigh> What's a man??? It's been that long, ya know.

If you're in ere moro, or today that is i'll keep ya a company.

S

[JustSia]

The ******** were - absolutely, sex and the city style.

S.

[David H]

You've well beaten me, I'm 46 and been on my own all my life besides many short term relationships.

The ones I wanted rarely wanted me and vice versa. You're just in a dip, you'll find a way out of it I think! See what activities are around while you have the time to do them and you never know who will be there!

[Zorr0]

David I wud stand back if i were you...or these 2 are gonna jump on you !

[Minxie]

David, come and half a laugh with us. I have just opened a bottle of wine. (cheap) but you are welcome to join us

[JustSia]

Cracks a cartone of apple juice open. Lets get the party started!

S.

[Minxie]

apple juice! tut tut

[JustSia]

I pretend it's cider.

S

[Zorr0]

I hope u r gonna put som Vodka in that apple juice

[Minxie]

yeah, or gin

[jonesl2003]

I enjoy being forty, female and now devorced,with a little person to care for,I feel like a great big ball and chain has been removed from my life,EAT LIFE ,DON'T LET IT EAT YOU

[David H]

Jump on me? Is it my lucky day?!

[len_1]

I'm in the "lucky you" category. to have you time to yourself.... lucky git.

I was up at 6 this morning with the kids... went to bed past midnight so i'm shattered!

but...

back on topic. Surely your married friends want to go out when they can. They're probably more desperate to get out away from the family then you!! can't you arrange a "girls night out" every other week on a regular?

[dmaxxx]

i thijnk 4 a start that its good therapy 2 chat on ab...ur in no ways alone luv,i only 37 goodlookin,good job,just outa dissatrous relationship and thinkin am i really gona end up that lonely old man that my x allways warned me about....wen i split from my wife 5 yrs ago it was even worse...but there is smthin just round the corner,,itll come wen ur least expectin it. my mates r all runnin round cubs an pubs still,sum r married..i sit alone every wkend watchin the clock...sumtimes i bury my sorrows with a drink but thats wrong..try get urself an intrest or join gym..it does wonders 4 ur self esteem..also i am joinin loopy love soon so ill get to meet loadsa chicks on that to pass the time untill the rite girl cums along...just stick in there..only u can pull rself together and start occupying ur time untill u meet him.....good luck

[WendyS]

Minxie, you've received quite a few answers but not many practical suggestions so far. Don't know where you live or what your interests are but there must be others who live in your area who find themselves in the same situation as you. Being a "single" at week-ends when most other friends are part of a couple isn't much fun so perhaps you could advertise in your local paper or a newsagents window to form a "Solitary Parents' Group" who get together for coffee, a meal, a ramble in a local beauty spot, or an occasional outing to the cinema together. Many supermarkets have a noticeboard for posting adverts of various kinds - perhaps you could cast your bread on the waters there and see what response you get. Sometimes there's a bit need out there for certain gaps to be filled and maybe there are more similar individuals out there like you than you realise. It just needs somebody to take the initiative and get something going.