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ABers i need your opinion
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For more on marking an answer as the "Best Answer", please visit our FAQ.Age is relative. It depends on the people in question. The fact you're asking implies you're not convinced about it yourself and the fact you can't tell you're parents also points to the fact that you're not ready for this relationship.
When I was 17 I went out with a 22 year old, my parents didn't mind at all, and in fact were happier because they felt he'd be more mature about the relationship than a boy my own age. But that was me.
I think a 20 year old is too old for you at this time.
It's hard to say without knowing you or him.
Depends how 'mature' you both are and what you both want from the relationship.
If you were 20 and he was 24 no one would say a thing.
The question is more as to whether you think he is an honest, trustworthy and caring person. If he is, your parents would probably rather you were with him than a 17-year old who lies, cheats and messes you about.
i fell for a girl who was 16 when i met her, i was 19, 3 months later i was 20 she was still 16!!
we went out happily for a few years,with her parents consent! i am now 35 and although no longer together, we are very good friends still, i am also still close to her family!!
boring story,but i hope it helps?
I never liked boys that were my own age and never had a boyfriend younger than 19 (when I was 15). At 16 most of my male friends were between 20-25. All my girlfriends had older boyfriends too. I really didn't have anything in common with boys nearer my own age who seemed terribly silly and juvenile to me then. I can't remember anybody commenting on it, and my parents always welcomed my boyfriends. It seemed quite acceptable back in those dim, dark ages. Have things now changed?
However, at 25 I married someone of my own age. That was a long time ago, I'm almost 59 now!!
I think so long as you keep your wits about you, don't get pushed in to doing anything that your not ready to, then you should follow your heart and do what you feel is right for you. There are some mature 20 yr olds out there but there are also some immature ones and so long as you realise this and don't get taken in then go for it :o)
I was 18 when I met my husband, who was 34 then, there are 16 yrs between us and we have been married for 7yrs this year. I don't know what it is but when we first met we clicked, even after all these years (nearly 10) we are inseperable :o)
Surely not all 20 year old guys are out for what they can get. Perhaps I am mixing in a different circle but the 20 year old guys I know through my son are the nicest bunch of lads ever and I have known them long enough and closely enough to say I would honestly be very happy to see any mature 16 year old go out with them. None of them would choose to go out with a 16 year old who wasn't mature, sensible and would be an equal partner.
A lot of 16 year olds are very mature and can handle themselves quite well. This thread is making me feel that we were a far more mature bunch of people in the 60s!
By the way, I consider that I was (and still am) a very caring parent and probably overanxious on lots of issues.
I agree 100% with noxlumos on this.
Weaza, see how it goes, use your head (I am sure you will) and I hope the relationship goes well. It's a shame you feel you can't tell your parents. It would be better if they could meet your new boyfriend and see for themselves what he is like. Mental age is not a matter of years - don't forget not all boys of your own age are little angels and many of that age have not a clue what respect for a girl is all about.