My Mother had post-natal depression

[RobertBurden]

How do you get over it if your mother had post natal depression? I felt like there's a huge void in my life for ages. I searched for someone to fill the void.

My Therapist has said that no one can ever fill the void, I have to realise this but I can't, it's hopeless.

I still really want that feminine side in my life, I get confussed that I want a girl sexually but I'm gay.

I'm trapped in the cycle, I can't be friends with any girls I start thinking that I fancy them, it's quite painful really.

Any ideas on this one?

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Robert

I'm going to tell you how well surprisingly the situation came out for me and I hope that you can find sum solace in it.

We had our daughter 18 years ago and my wife suffered with Post Natal Depression for some three years. My daughter refused to stay with my wife and lived with her grandmother coming down daily to visit, she was very close to me.

We then moved and she has gradually bonded with her mother, she has a great relationship now. I dont know if your mother is still alive(I am not being rude, you didn.t say) but realise that PND is as much an illness as anything and something most women suffer from for varying lengths of time, I do not believe personally that it has anything to do with rejection if thats what you fear.

As for your sexuality I would suggest it is a separate issue, be confident and happy in your lifes relationships. Me I am a one woman man, there were times I cried with fear of being on my own, remember this 'surprisingly' girls are not ogres listen well to people and are great company, men can have platonic friendship with women as can women with men. I used to worry about my friendships with homosexual men but my wife and daughter say Im a metrosexual just someone whos comfortable with the way I am, I dont go to the pub for hours and have lovely conversations with other abers, I am not bothered about them personally just that ab is so good

Finally you are doing well, you are addressing these issues and I wish you peace in your heart and a reconcilliation, keep in touch

[Natnat7]

i am in a similar situation.
I have just been told by the doc i am depressed and put on anti depressants.
So i have been finding out as much info into my past as poss so sounds like my mum suffered the same and i to have always felt there is a huge void in my life too.

I am straight but for a few years went out with women for the same reason im sure.I realised that the only person i can sort it out with is my mum but she is very closed on the situation, which is hard when u want to better youself and move forward.hows yours?? have you tried to talk to her ??

Dont dispare there is light at the end of the tunnel as i have improved so much over the last few years over the last 5 years.
As being true n honest to yourself means you will get the answers you want it does however take time sometimes.
so just try n be patient.
try this book may help you understand a little bit more,New light on depression David B Biebel.

best of luck x

[RobertBurden]

Thanks for the message and support Rob x