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What do you do when someone you've been seeing and all seems well, suddenly stops contact?
The last communication was a 'happy easter' text from me a few days ago and i've heard nothing since.
We were together for a few months then broke up (not my choice) and reently started seeing each other again - this in itself made the situation somewhat edgy on my part. Now I guess I know where I stand! What do people think? I am angry, disappointed and expected more from this person who I thought had the balls to speak up if there was a problem.
Should I just leave it or ask for an explaination?
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If it was me I would certainly want to know what the hell was going on. I'd need to know actually. I don't think you should sit back and be quiet and make it easy for this person to slip away quietly! Try and contact them at an appropriate time and a time when you know they are in and they can talk. But if things are over, then learn from this and DON'T give them anymore chances. :o)
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Well I think that this person is rude and a wimp! They should at least have the courtesy to tell you to your face that things are over if that is the case. Assuming that this person isn�t commited to other projects right now (i.e. excessive workload, house move or other such event that could encroach on their personal life); or had a tendency to reply to texts a few weeks late; or had lost their mobile phone and doesn�t have your number anywhere else, then I would definitely take the silence as a rejection. In which case I would personally walk away quietly and not contact them ever again. If you text or leave messages now and they don�t respond, their silence will only make you angrier and then you�ll be prone to sending more angry texts and messages. In the end you�ll be the one looking like an obsessive ex who doesn�t have the ability to let go. Don�t let anybody give you that bad image, no matter how much better you feel you deserve. Hold your head up high and go out and find somebody better I say.
Thanks for your advice. I have to say I was thinking along the lines of your advice Ruby at first - Champers has changed my mind though. Will hold head up and move on - it's frustrating but the person involved knows they are in the wrong and I don't want to make myself feel worse by pursuing matters further....
Thanks
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Yeah she changed my mind too. :o)
Good old Champs.
He will be totally miffed when he realises you don'y give a cr@p and you are out having fun!
Gevs
I agree to some extent re. 'benefit of doubt'. However, after the easter break he will be back at work and hasnt sent me an email or anything explaining such a possibility. If he comes back to me this week with a valid reason for the turn of events, then fair enough I will take a view on whether to hear him out.
I guess of everything was hearts and flowers people wouldn't feel the need to vent their problems on AB Robbo. I personally find people's opinons and suggestions very helpful and its sometimes good to talk to people who don;t know you rather than friends.
There are some decent people out there, there are also some gits - such iis life.
i was in the same situation myself a few years ago. had been going with this fella for a few months and my friends pointed out to me that i was phoning him more than he was phoning me. so i decided not to phone him to see what would happen. needless to say, i never heard from him again. i never asked what his problem was because i had more pride than that. i wasn't going to run after him. unless his phone's been stolen or he's been kidnapped i would assume he's not coming back. sorry hun
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