punishment

[websurfer]

how do you punish a partner that cheated on you?

that is, if you do not intend to separate

[nursecarla]

i think punishment is the wrong word it smacks of physical abuse if you excuse the pun

[Beanmistriss]

Ummmmmm you don't. Surely if you decide to stay together thats your choice and it's a bit silly to then try to punish them. You either forgive em or you don't

[alijangra]

Forgive or forget it!!

[inej]

Hi websurfer, i think you can forgive but you can't forget, i don't think there is really a way you can punish them, if you felt like that the easiest thing would be to seperate.

I actually did cheat on my partner early on in our relationship and even though we are still together after six years later my partner always brings the fact that i did cheat in the argument.

[Blyss]

make him eat my cooking

[laurence2]

I'm not the forgiving type, Therefore the best form of punishment is get rid of him/her.

You ''WILL'' get hurt Again thats for sure

[Rubyrose]

I don't think you can punish them really if you are staying with them but at the same time you want to let them know that if they EVER do it again, you will make them pay! For the mean time.. let him rot in his own guilt!

[dot.hawkes]

Firstly u nead to verify the facts, I thought my bloke was cheating on me with his dive buddy, he kept denying it but it changed my feelings towards him forever, i haven't felt the same way towards him since and it just eats away at you. the love just then kinda dies slowly, until you relaise that you are doing everything u can to avoid being with them except tellin them you no longer want them near you. Eventually if they just don't get the message you nead to be blunt, staying together is a waste of their lives and yours, love is loyalty, trust and campanionship, not shaggin the next good body.

[dot.hawkes]

can we still say shaggin?

[electricblue]

Dot.hawkes,you nearly have me in tears,you have said exactly how i feel,almost word for word,yeah your feelings do change,they DO die slowly,i know!!

[funkymoped]

dot.

you say "thought my bloke was cheating on me"

sorry to pry, but was he or was it just suspition that destroyed things ?

[dot.hawkes]

it was the explicit multimedia message that kinda clinched it jasper

[robbo82]

I have to agree with Laurence; if someone cheats on you, they obviously aren't happy in the relationship, and there are therefore no guarentees that it won't happen again. Fortunately, it's never happened to me, but I really don't know if I could stay with someone I knew wasn't fully committed.

[funkymoped]

I get the message dotty.

sorry to have digged deeper than was needed.

[funkymoped]

i typed "digged" !!!! i cant believe i put "digged"

o.m.g. im stupid !

[sweetdor]

cut his b@lls off im sure he wont cheat on u again

[Tha-Flash]

Use food colouring on him instead of lotion and give him a coloured crotch. Nobody likes a green nob. I don't think he'll cheat then.

[Lore]

I think by staying with him you are giving him permission to do it again, maybe not this month, not even this year but if the temptation is there again he knows you'll hang on to him to save face.... only this time he'll know what to hide from you, he'll be a lot more secretive about it and he won't get caught.

I wouldn't like to live a life of wondering what he's doing, where he is, is he really just running late? does he really have a meeting at work tonight?

[ICEMANSAV]

Don't bother you choose to have him/her back and therefore it is acceptance of the deed. I personally don't think a relationship can work after an infidelity and would suggest opting out of the relationship.

[utternutter]

If he really ****** you off, sew a kipper into his curtians, he'll never find them and the house will stink unbearbly!!!!