why \m I such a disasterous dieter!

[kazzianne]

Im an soooo fed up this morning.I have been on a diet for about a month & a half now,and as usual I stuck to it perfectly for the first 2 weeks - and lost 7lb.Then I got bored with not being able to eat exactly what I like,when I like and I start picking.Then I feel guilty the next day,and so this cycle goes on and on.Over the last 4 weeks with going away on business,Easter,having family to stay etc I have managed to maintain my weight but that still means in the last month I havent lost any more ,when I should have really.I bought a bike and rode 4 miles on fri and 5 miles yesterday,but then last night when my boyfriend had to go away with work I was so miserable on my own that I practically ate everything in sight! Have just got on the scales and they make me 2 lb heavier and now I am meant to go and get weighed at my slimming club tomorrow! And this holiday which I wats to lose the weight for in the first place is getting closer and closer.I feel such a failure.Help!!

[~Wingnut~]

Hey, your doing great Kazzianne!! To lose 7lbs then still maintain the weight even though you weren't sticking to your diet is very good going! You just need to get back on to it. I lost over a stone back in January, but like you things got in the way and I put off my exercise DVD, ate crappy food and slowly some of the weight has crept back on, but as of yesterday I am back on the diet, doing parts of my DVD.
Just see it as a minor slip up, your only human :o)

[kazzianne]

I guess so,but I wanted to lose 1-2 lb a week so that when it got to my holiday I

[kazzianne]

sorry - posted too early!! So that when it got to my holiday I would have lost 2 stone.When I get off track I find it so hard to get back.And I live somewhere very isolated so spend most days /eve's on my own which makes it even harder.

[raysparx]

Hello Kazzi,

chin up love,what about doing a joint diet with your boyfriend? and when you feel a bit peckish eat an apple or some grapes,one good thing to help is drink a large glass of water 10 minutes or so before you eat,and when you do eat use smaller plates, tell you what I am going on a diet why don't we do it together? I am sure others on here would join in as well,then we could put a post on every couple of weeks and spur each other on,what about it? I need to lose about 2stone to return to being an addonis,i'll do it if you will!!

let us know, take care, Ray

[glenn_99]

Get a postcard of your holiday destination and put it on your fridge/biscuit barrell or snack cupboard.

Just say "no" to the fatty foods or even easier don't buy them. Keep up the good work and good luck. Cheers.

[kazzianne]

Oh Ray bless!! Thats a brill idea! Boyfriend is actually on the diet as well but as he has so much to lose(about 4 stone) he has been snacking every eve and no exercise whatsoever yet the weight is still coming off him!

[kazzianne]

Yes I will get a pic of the South of France from last years foto's - good idea Glenn.Annoying thing is I wouldnt buy anything naughty except for the fact that I have a litle one who is actually underweight! So he has been advised to eat extra cheese,bread etc,hence when he is in bed.......

[glenn_99]

Kazz. Only buy enough for little one then. If you do start snacking then you are taking food off of your youngster. I know its not easy, but you CAN do it if you are really positive about it. Set yourself smaller targets i.e no cheese/bread tonight and if you succeed for five nights, treat yourself - to something small.

[Champagne]

Ah, bless you kazzi. I can imagine how hard it is. I don't diet purely for that reason. I've always been very lucky that my weight fluctuates between a size 10/12 and I can usually get back on track very easily. But I never follow diets. As soon as I go on a diet I start craving food; and I'm talking about things I don't usually eat too! It's all psychological.

When I need to lose a few pounds I simply remind myself that I need food to live; I don't live to need food! Then I focus on my 5 portions of veg/fruit per day (that's pretty difficult for me at the best of times!) and the weight tends to fall off. But if I fancy a naughty treat then I have one. And I don't beat myself up about it either.

I only have one life to live so I'm not going to spend it miserable and dieting!! xxx

[kazzianne]

Champage - you're so right!! Im not actually calorie counting - im just eating lots of veg,fruit,lean meat etc and cycling but its true - the sec I try and be really good I want the things that I dont normally crave.Now I never buy chocolate - ever - but because Im trying to lose weight my sons easter eggs keep calling "eat me"

But you do only live once,so I should try and focus on the good changes I have made I guess.Im just impatient - I want results NOW!! LOL

[Champagne]

Kazzi, unless your health is at risk through poor diet then you probably don't need to lose weight anyhow. It's this poxy media society that makes us feel fat. There was a time when being curvaceous was a sign of good living. Bring back those days I say!

[kazzianne]

Hi Champagne - I actually think I eat very healthiny.Yes I do enjoy my wine in the evenings but a typical days food for me is cereal for breakfast,scrambled eggs on toast for lunch,and dinner is something like chicken,broccoli,cabbage,leeks and carrots.But Im still a very curvy 14-16-typical hourglass but I just wish there was a bit less sand!!

[kazzianne]

*healthily

[raysparx]

Kazzi,

you sound great, as champagne says don't worry to much,you have a good healthy diet you are probably like me and just need a bit more exercise,more than a diet, wanna race???

[kazzianne]

Sounds good Ray!

[Champagne]

I'll race you both to the cake aisle in Tesco!!

[raysparx]

i'm allready there champagne,stuffing my big fat fizz og with cream eclairs!!

[dancealot13]

Hi Kazzianne- Thanks for responding to my Anxiety post.

It sounds like your doing great! What helps me to stay healthy is changing the way I think about my meals. Dont put too many limits on yourself, and don't feel guilty for over-eating occassionaly. If you want pizza then eat half a slice and have a small salad. If you want a candy bar, take two bites an then eat an apple. Try not to think of it as "Dieting", just think of it as being healthy. The portions we eat is usually what causes excess weight. If you deny yourself foods that you like, it can cause stress. If I am craving french fries and Im stuck eating a salad, I usually don't feel full if I don't eat what I want, and then the FOOD is always on my mind. So I compromise. I'll buy a small fry, and a side salad with fat-free dressing. I eat what I want when I want, but in moderation. I promise that if you excersice and eat this way, you will loose weight and keep it off forever. -Not just for a year or 6 months. You will see a difference in your lifestyle and in your self-control.

[gessoo]

I have tried dieting, joined Weight Watchers and Rosemary Conley, etc. Nothing worked because I was thinking of food all the time and planning meals etc. Dieting makes people obsessed with food, and makes them feel like a failure if they don't lose weight. Slimming Clubs are big business are there purely to make money and so many people that shed loads of weight put it all back on afterwards. I know because it happened to me.

So a couple of months ago I decided to just eat what I wanted but have much smaller portions, drink loads of water, get some more exercise, reduce my fat and sugar intake and eats lots of veg and fruit. However, I still have the odd cake, etc. and never feel hungry. Together with Paul McKenna's book 'I can make you thin' with it's enclosed CD, my new frame of mind has meant that I have now lost 14 lbs. in 8 weeks and I feel loads better. What's more the weight is still coming off gradually.

If I can do it so can anyone!

Don't feel like a failure kazzianne - you are certainly not.

[kazzianne]

guess ur all right - as usual!! Im being too hard on myself!! I suppose im only 7lb lighter but its still 7 lb isnt it!!