sex

[babe22]

i have been with my partner 2 years at first sex was great but now we hardly have it we both love sex but i never feel in the mood help

[Octavius]

Your Q does not give enough info for an informed Answer. Perhaps if you do not wish to divulge further you may find some interim help here:

http://www.relate.org.uk/sexproblems/

[kazzianne]

Is this a recent thing? Do you still fancy him?

[redcrx]

Are you one the pill? Some pills cause your sex drive to dwindle.

[unruliejulie]

It's the easiest thing to let slip in a relationship. you have to put the effort in to get the effort back if you get my drift! Also, the longer you leave it the less you want it. I'm afraid you'll have to consciously try and get that flame flickering again. make time for some lovin! Good luck, once you get the drive back, you'll never stop once you get it back! x

[lainiej]

Hi babe. I have the same problem and have desperatley tried to get the feeling back in our 4 yr relationship. I've lost 2.5 st and thought I'd feel more sexy than ever before but its gone the other way. Our prob is that I need more sleep than him so I go to bed around 10 and he comes up about 12.30. ALso as he snores he tends to sleep in the spare room a lot. He used to get annoyed that I didnt want sex but I think he's given up now. When we do get round to it I do enjoy it but more often than not I just want him to get it over with, I even tried Sentuelle patches - no good. Although I do love my hubby - not sure if I still fancy him.

Sorry for highjacking your post, hun. Please let me know if you find a solution. Good luck Elaine x

[rugeleyboy]

lainiej....................... are you my wife?????

[Skipoet]

Think it's bad now? Wait till you've been together 15 years....

[unruliejulie]

isn't it nice to know, when, in a world thats obsessed by sex, you're not alone! sometimes you can be made to feel like a freak cause you've gone off the boil a bit, but it would seem, its pretty normal!!!!

[Skipoet]

I think it's fairly well documented that the 'honeymoon' period is fairly shortlived. My previous answer was probably fairly glib, but meant humorously.

I guess it's more about concentrating on quality rather than quantity. You need to set aside time for each other - I know spontaneity is great, but when you both have busy lives it doesn't always work like that.

Make an appointment with each other, and make sure you keep it!