Getting back in touch with An Old Ex

[jibjab]

I emailed an old old ex today, she was 16 and i was 18 at the time, i am 23 now.

Anyway, she seems pretty keen to meet up for a drink and catch up, she hasnt mentioned a boyfriend and Im guessing that her not doing anything on a Friday night could mean shes single?

I dont want to ask her straight out because Im trying to meet up and be friends and genuinely just catch up and see what happens from there...

The thing is my mate seems to think shes got a bf (altho my m8 is in the army so isnt home much..)

I just want to know really wether any other women on here would be so keen to meet up with an old flame if they had a boyfriend.

AM I READING TOO MUCH INTO HER WANTING TO MEET UP ?

[electricblue]

Theres nothing wrong with meeting up with an old friend,if she's got a bf then i'm sure you will find out,don't make it into something else,just go for a drink,catch up and if anything else is gonna evolve thenjust go with it if thats what you both want,otherwise you've gained yourself another mate,good luck!

[country_boy]

Maybe she's keen for "closure" - did it end badly?

[caz21]

I would not meet up with any of my male friends while in my current relationship! not because my boyf doesnt want me to purely because i have no interest in doing so as i am happy as i am and wouldnt want to encourage anyone even though nothing would ever happen anyway! but meeting an ex would be a big no no! However an ex got in touch a few years ago and i went to see him! purely to catch up and i thought to myself oh my god why!? was great for closure!

What i'm saying is i doubt she will be with anyone and if she was she'd prob want to tell you before meeting so you didnt get the wrong idea! Go and have fun!

[zerocool]

Jibjab... stop lying to yourself. Your question doesnt quite add up, first you wish to meet her just to catch up as friends but then your wondering whether she is single. If the former was the case, the latter shouldnt matter. From a guy (myself) who has been the same situation.. Im sure deep down your hoping she is single.

[Miss Zippy]

I've met up with an ex before whilst in a relationship, purely to catch up and not because I was interested. However, I didn't suggest the meeting and I made sure he knew that I was in a relationship before we met to avoid any embarassing misunderstandings. On balance, I'd say your ex is single but you won't know til you ask! P.S. don't tell her all about your probs with your ex. It's really off putting when people lay all their emotional baggage on you. Good luck!