Man trouble!

[Rubyrose]

Ok we all know guys are confusing but this is taking the p!ss!

There is someone I like and have liked for months and we get on great and things have been up and down between us. We are good mates but sometimes we take it further. The way I have felt about them has been pretty consistant and hasn't changed much but they seem to be up and down. They know I like them and they continue to tell me that they only like me as a mate but if there situation was different then there might be a chance. But what I don't understand is.. why does this person constantly need to ask me what my feelings towards them are, only to continue telling me that they don't feel the same. Its like they need to be reminded of how much I like them.

The last few weeks I started to realise this and me and this person just ended up rowing all the time so I took some time out and decided not to speak to him for a week. Then we started chatting again and I realised that maybe my feelings for them had changed as I spent a week away from them and it didn't bother me. I was fine and missed them as a mate to chat to but realised I can easily manage without them there. But when I told them this.. they kept asking about my feelings for them again and asking if I loved them, blah blah blah. Everytime a slight bit of feeling was let out on my part they would say 'But I don't feel the same way. We are just mates now'!!!!! Whats going on? I am so confused!

[country_boy]

Thanks!! You don't live in the SW do you?;-)

[Rubyrose]

I'm in good old Surrey, hun ;o)

[country_boy]

Aw shucks!!! Well anyway, I think you know what you need to do - easier said than done eh?! He sounds a wee bit immature to say the least!

[Rubyrose]

Country boy.. I'm not that far away! Could be worse. Lol. ;o)

Yeah I know.. and definately easier said than done. I don't see him as immature but he is 16yrs older than me! *blush*

[mycats]

We can go anywhere you like hon :-) I would like to bring the drums please,please,please!!

and yeah he probably will see this lol ooops!

[country_boy]

He he - do you like Cornwall? How old are you then?

[lia*]

Rubes, sounds like this bloke is much older than you and has �other� commitments. He is toying with your affection. By you submitting to him all the time is putting you beneath him. He does not respect you enough, and keeps telling you he does not feel the same about you. He is trying to let you know up front he will not be able to commit to you in a serious relationship. When he asks you how you feel about him, tell him the same way you feel about me, the feeling is mutual. If he is cheating on someone with you, chances are he might do it to you also. Oh rubes, you deserves sooooo much better. The sooner you leave him, the sooner you will find someone deserving of you.

[Rubyrose]

Ok Cat, the drums can come! But if we end up living in a box I am selling the drums to buy us food. Lol

Never been to Cornwalll, CB.. but wouldn't mind going! I am only 21.. :o)

Lia - He is much older than me and attached! I think from now on I will just say 'I feel the same as you do about me'! It seems that everytime I get him out of my head and feel better he worms his way back in! And he knows he does!

[Ward-Minter]

Ruby you had the chance of an intelligent, caring, wealthy, handsome young unmarried male who once thought you were the bees knees. And you blew it. You have made your bed in this world, I suggest you lie in it. ;-)

[mycats]

lol if it comes to it Ruby I'm putting you on the streets rather than sell my drums. I could get us money by playing them, keep you in the manner to which you should be acustumed :-)

(Pssst Wardy - How much for an hour with Ruby?)

[country_boy]

Ah jealousy - the highest form of flattery!

[Rubyrose]

Wardy, this is so true. I blew my chances with you didn't I?! *Sniff sniff*.. Now I have changed my mind! I want to be a lesbian... it seems Cat will have no probs with that.. haha ;o)

Cat, we could live in the drums! Lol. You play them on the streets and get us our money back and I will pickpocket the onlookers.

[Rubyrose]

Country boy - Who is jealous? Wardy? Wardy has always loved me.. ;o) Lol.

[mycats]

YAAAAAAAY! A lesbian, criminal "street person" - Ah my mother will be so proud rofl

[Ward-Minter]

Indeed Rubes. I liken it to Pete Best leaving the Beatles quoting "I want to go places" or some middle aged woman selling an original Rubens for 10 quid at a car boot sale.

Just to rub it in, you could have had it all. X

[country_boy]

Just casting a line;-) I hear he's a good catch, you should reconsider!!!

[Rubyrose]

Lol. Cat, I think my mum would think its an improvement. Haha. She would think I am moving up in the world.

Wardy, how can I ever make it up to you? I can sing you some Beach Boys or David Bowie.. ;o)

CB - He is a good catch but not the nicest fish in the river.. Haha. Sorry Wardy.. :oP

[country_boy]

Is it the mullet?

[Rubyrose]

Blimey! I didn't even know about the mullet! Hmmmm.. Looks like I will carry on being single then!Lol

[Ward-Minter]

The best fish never get caught rubes, they are too smart, too fast and don't eat in public.

However, I will return the compliment and say you are the loveliest dog in the kennels.

Rubes, what has a man got to do? You are living proof that women really do like barstewards. Treat 'em mean keep 'em keen eh?

Sadly I could never adhere to that. Call me old fashioned but I tend to treat the fairer sex with dignity and respect. X