my friend...poss gf

[steve208]

hi all....i am in need of a bit of help been going round in circles with a girl for a few days now. We met at work months ago but only recently chated more and meeting outside work as friends. She has a bf and i have a gf but we are both wanting to split with them to be together. Not a prob for me as gf is 150 odd miles away and really not been working for months only seen her every six weeks or so. But with her she has been with her bf 2 years and he is her first one. She says he cheated on her in december and their relationship has been bad since. She is now finding it difficult to decide what to do.

I have said i like her etc and we have done no more than hug, i refuse to pressurise her and keep saying to her that if stayin with her bf is what she thinks is best for her then so be it as id prefer her to be happy.

She is v stressed about deciding etc and i have done all i can to help etc but am a bit frustrated now as she has exams and is not workin that hard on them.

hope some advice can be offered thank you

[undercovers]

i think you should split up with your gf, not wait until you have a replacement lined up, this would be fairer to your present gf and might make you more acceptable to the women you are trying to seduce.

then just have some fun being single for a bit, give the girl time to either mend her relationship or break it off. If you got together now you would just be a rebound relationship and they rarely work - or it could be just a way to get back at the bf for cheating.

just enjoy your summer single and she will like you more

[steve208]

thanks for that it makes a lot of sense and is v helpful.

u think would mess with her to kiss her if she finishes with her bf tis oh so temoting to kiss her tis such a lot of tension in the air.

[Dollie]

Yes - give yer a kiss if you think thats what she'd like as well - that kiss might just help put things in perspective for both of you. If you're happy to just wait in the wings till she decides whether to finish with her fella then thats fine. Its probably your best bet now, but if a kiss feels appropriate, in the meantime, then 'go with the flow.' Don't wait around for ever though - if she's undecided for a while, then you're probably better backing off.

[steve208]

yes thanks dollie...think will wait till after any decision bout her bf till i kiss her tho.

and need to find the guts to finish with my current gf yes know i should not but going to write her a letter as it is easier to explain than on the phone....im not v gd at talking on the phone and would be wrong to do it by text....also current gf lives too far away to go and visit for the day really just to finish with her.

[Dollie]

Good Luck Steve - I think a letter is very appropriate under the circumstances, but be ready for her to ring you when she receives it. If she doesn't want the split then she'll be looking for answers that are not in your letter so be prepared. All the best chuck.