pregnant!!

[kerry-ann]

please help me i dont no what to do iv just found out that im pregnant im only 17 and my parents are gonna kill me, i felt bloated the other day and my period was 3 weeks late, i thought it was my body changing because i was on the pill.(i thought you couldnt get pregnant whilst on the pill and iv been taking it correctly) i havent told my boyfriend yet (of 3 years) i dont no what to do i just want to curl up and die.

[andy-hughes]

Hello kerry-ann I am sorry to read that you find yourself in this situation.

You need to tell your parents. They may well be shocked at first, but you are, and alwaus will be their daughter, and you may be surprised how supportive they will be.

You are in a stable relationship, so your partner needs to know, and then you can decide what you want to do.

You will get lots of advice from anyone and everyone, but the decision about your future must be yours and you must do what you feel is right for you.

Don't try and face this on your own - ask your GP if there is a counsellor you can talk to about your future, and of course, there is plenty of support on here.

You are not on your own, stay in touch with us.

A x

[devilwoman]

hold on a mo, did vyou say your period was 3 weeks late? has it actually arrived then? if thats what you meant then you're not pregnant. if the period has'nt started wait a couple more weeks and then take a pregnancy test. a bloated feeling doe'nt indicate pregnancy. if indeed you are on the pill and as u say have taken it correcty then theres a 95% that you are not pregnant. good luck if if it turns out ok take extra care in the future ok..

[kerry-ann]

im so confused i dont no what to do , im not an imature 17 year old who spends there time drinking cider on a street corner my photography career is just starting to take of too, but i couldnt get rid of this baby i dont think i would be able to this shouldnt be happening to me im the most careful person i no i always make sure i take the pill and before i started to take the pill we always used condoms

[Maggie-Mae]

First of all Kerry-Ann, try and remain calm (i know its easier said than done). Have you done a test or are you just going by your period being late? If you have done a test a its positive then dont act in haste. Give yourself time to think about situation without involving anyone else, for the time being!. What do you want to do, do you want to have a baby, are you in eduction, could you continue with with your education/job with a baby. At the end of the day, its not whether your parents or boyfriend are going to be unhappy/shocked etc, its about whether you feel you could cope with and bring up a child at this time in your life. After their initial shock, do you think you could rely on your family and boyfriend for support if you went ahead with the pregnancy. You are young and having a child will change your life forever, but its not impossible to do, but you have to do whats best for you, cos what is best for you will also be best for the baby. If you feel that none of it is right for you, then maybe your best to consider not going ahead with the pregnancy. Lots of love and all the best, I hope things work out whatever you decide xxxxx

[fayelc123]

Hi kerry-ann, so sorry to hear your problem.

I do agree with andy-hughes though, you should talk to your parents, i really think you'll be so surprised how they react. i'm sure they will be there for you & help you no matter what.

I really hope that everything works out ok for you whatever happens. xxx

[TopCat1]

Kerry-ann, I know it seems the end of the world right now, but its not. I agree with Andy, tell your parents and together, once the shock is over 'for all of you', you can sit down together and talk about your future.

Things are never as bad as they seem.

[kerry-ann]

iv taken 3 pregnancy test and they are all positive !

[~posy-jo~]

tell your parents as soon as you can babe the longer you leave it the harder it will be. i know you are scared but the sooner it is out in the open the sooner you can get on and deal with it in whatever way you want. like the others said keep us posted, i hope everything works out the way you want it to xXx

[redcrx]

I agree with the others. Speak to your parents as soon as possible. Speak to your GP so that you can get counselling too.

Maybe girls of your age have babies and can cope very well with the sudden change in lifestyle. others decided that they are too young and go down other routes.

You need to be able to try and calm down and think what you would like to do. Not what your parents or boyfriend would want you to do. The responsibilty of a child would fall on you, not them, so its your choice.

Could you continue our career with a young child? There are many tax credits that would help a working mother to get a good career and if safe you could work for nearly all of your pregancy.

Finding out your unexpectedly expecting is a shock at any age (I was 32) and it can talk a while to get your head around it.

Whatever you decide, I wish you well.

[malaise]

Kerry-ann, you've said you couldn't get rid of the baby. In that case your only option really is to tell your parents - they might be shocked and disappointed at first, but if you intend to keep the baby, they must know ASAP. They might surprise you! You also should go to a doctor and speak this through with them. And if you've been with your boyfriend for 3 years, hopefully he'll react well and continue to love and support you.

Good luck babes. Don't stress out too much - you can do this! Your photography skills won't go away, and if you're determined, you can be a mum and have a career. All the best xxx

[stylinsam]

aww darling i feel for ou i really do, i remember when i was 17 i had a lot of pregnancy scares i can tell you, i agree with evryone else get this out in the open and let people help u, u really need to tell your bf too.

i hope everything goes well

keep us posted

SS x

[Octavius]

If you think you are pregnant there are lots of places you can go to get the help and advice you need. The best thing would be to talk to your parents/carers but for different reasons that this can sometimes be difficult. Try and talk to an adult you can trust like a teacher, school nurse, GP, education welfare office or family friend.

You really need to talk to someone. Perhaps you could telephone Magic Roundabout

They provide free and confidential counselling, advice, and information for young people aged between 12-20 and pregnant teenagers.

Tel: [phone], or visit: 23 Richmond Road, Kingston-Upon-Thames, Surrey. KT2 5BW if you are in that area. If not I am sure there will be somewhere more local.

[kerry-ann]

thankyou for your kind words i am going to talk to my parents tonight thankyou again i didnt no who to turn to.

[loobie]

Hi Kerry-Ann,

Everybody has given wonderful advice on here and I am only really echoing what they said. Please tell your parents as you can't go through this alone. If you really have been using condoms as well as the pill then it really isn't your fault hunni and I'm sure they will realise that. They may be shocked at first but give them time. Go and see your doctor and get all the advice from him as well.

You sound like you've got a good head on you so you just need to sit down and talk it through with your boyf and family. Take care darling and keep us informed. We are a very caring helpful bunch on here.

[little coojy]

hi kerry-ann you must feel very frightend and lonely at the moment, have you not got a friend or anyone you could confined in, or you could go to a family planning centre and talk to them, there there for advice and support as well, you have to decide what you want to do and i know its not an easy decision, you need to find out how far gone you are, you might find your mum will be there for you more than you think when she gets over the shock, but always remember its your decission its your life, you can still have you career there are lots of creches and help if the need be, i was in your situation years ago, i can now look back and see i worried more than was needed, your all over the plce at the minute, take care , us abers are always here to talk x

[sexyrussian]

I am glad to hear you are not considering abortion.Well done for that!I think the only thing you can do is wait until you are COMPLETELY sure you are pregnant and than you will have to tell your parents.You may be surprised by the way they react.

[raysparx]

Hi kerry,

As you have already been advised,talk to your parents,they will stand by you,the first reaction will probably be anger,but only because they love you,they will then re-assure you that they are with you,and will help you,so if you are 100% sure you are don't put it off you will be surprised at how supportive they will be.

Take care, Ray xx

[mycats]

Kerry-ann, I am so sorry to hear how scared you are. <<<hugs>>> first thing is calm down! I know you say your parents will kill you, but trust me hon, it will be ok. Yes, they will be upset and hurt and dissapointed (er am I helping yet? lol) BUT they will calm down, trust me. They love you, you are in a relationship and sound like an intelligent girl. These things happen. I got pregnant at 17 and I cried for three days solid. I put off telling my mum for a couple of weeks, till I had spoken to a doctor. I was SO scared about telling my mum and yeah she was upset (for me) but it didnt take long for her to come round. Talk to your boyfriend too. If you do decide to have the baby, this is NOT the end of the world. My son is 10 in a few weeks and I cant imagine life without him. This is not the end of the world hon. Good luck x

[kerry-ann]

hi i have spoke to my boyfriend and he has cried until i left him he is in the same situation as me and we are going to make an appointment at th doctors just for a final oppinion then we will tell are parents, my eyes feel so red roar after crying, thankyou again for all of your posts never used this site before but you are lovely people thanksx

[loobie]

You're welcome Kerry-Ann, I'm so glad you have told your boyfriend and good luck with the docs and your parents. Please update as with what happens as not only are we all nosy but we do all care as well. Take care hun xx