Honest Answers Please

[lou100]

OK, I value the opinions of your AB'rs! (honestly I do).

I am 30, single and live on my own. I have a great family and friends and am very happy with my life.

Why is it others question that I can be happy on my own without a man?

I really am happy and have a life which I am happy with, why does nobody understand this and always go on about how I should be courting?!

Am I normal, are there any others like me?

[David H]

Well, I can add my whole family. My mother left my father, who cracked up. She remarried, he died and she has been devastated for years, etc etc through at least 4 close relatives. Whatever else was equal they were happier when married and are fairly representative of an average section of society.

Of course we all have different requirements but I'd like to see anyone in their 30s happy to be single 30 years ahead when all their friends have grandchildren, left them alone for ages as they're single, and all the other ways you become left behind. I see 50 looming ahead of me and imagining I'll be single for the rest of my life is a dismal view whatever other people go through or not. My life only felt three dimensional when I was with a partner, it made all the difference. Everything else is just keeping myself busy.

Maybe some people are better at burying these feelings than I am.