Truth or lies

[amazingtoxic]

I recently got out of a very long relationship that's kind of been messing with my head. To get over it and move on I thought I would try this online dating thing, which worked really well, I started talking to a really nice guy, in the army, fit as you like. Likes art and books and stuff like that, which was perfect because I didn't want the typical lad. Anyway we started talking and getting on really well, he said I should come to his base, etc etc. Then I went a while without hearing from him, and yesterday I sent him an email saying basically - totally understand if your not interested but could you let me know so I dont make an idiot out of myself.

In reply I got a text saying that he was sorry for the mixed signals but work was getting tough and he may have to go to canada in a month so we best not meet but if he doesn't have to go, could he keep contacting me.

Ok so do you guys think its all lies or is he being genuine?

[Ethel]

Impossible to guess.

Have you met his friends, family? Been to his home or workplace?

Telephoned a land line to speak to him?

[amazingtoxic]

No, we just text and talked over the net alot, I know, I really shouldn't be that bothered but he was sooo fine and a genuine guy which is so hard to come by these days

[B00]

Id be tempted to send a friendly text back stating that "sure if he doesnt bog off to Canada, you'd like to be contacted again", but carry on searching. Leave your options open girl!

[Rock'n'Roll]

Both Ethel and Boo raise two good points. If he doesn't go.then YOU'D like to be contacted,also a landline number you could ring.Much more of a substantial contact than e-mail or mobile. I'm sure there are lots of genuine guys waiting to meet someone like you,possibly thinking the same about the lasses. I'm also sure some people have met their ideal partner with online or chat room dating. Hope it works out,whatever

[country_boy]

Hard to say, how do you know the pictures you've seen of him are for real? It's hard to trust your instinct if you've not met him or talked on the phone. Why not ask him to meet up even if he is going, if nothing happens because of him going away, you've still made a friend. If there is no spark between you or it turns out he's not as nice in the flesh then at least you know and can deal with it. What have you got to lose? Also if you've come out of a long term relationship recently then you may be bouncing around a bit yourself so keep it light for now. Has he still got a profile up on the dating site after meeting you? Is he in contact with anyone else he has met online? If he has still got a profile up, you could always set a trap by putting a different profile/photo on and contact him and see if he's interested and has the same story etc.