Love at first sight? Can it happen?

[Spcl22]

Hiya, just wanted to know your thoughts on the whole 'love at first sight' thang. Do
you believe? The reason why I'm asking, is that a very close friend of mine has met a new beau, she is head over heels in love with him and I honestly, have never seen her so happy. But, I'm a little concerned, as he has proposed and she has accepted.....she's known him for 7 weeks. What do you think? Am I worrying about
nothing? I was honest with her and said that its fab news, but was she really sure after 7 weeks.... From what she said, I think that everyone else has given her alot of grief about it. She's asked me to help her sort out where and when, etc.... I was thinking of encouraging them to move in together first, then set the wedding for
Jan/Feb time (she suggested October this year). Help....!!!! I don't want to upset her and I want to be supportive too????

[sexyrussian]

No it can't.

[stylinsam]

personally i do think love at first site can happen! i was 17 when i first met my boyfriend and i was at college and i was in one of my classes and the door was open about 5cm and i just had an instinct to look at the door asnd when i looked over i saw my now boyfriend standing against the wall through the 5cm gap ! he smiled at me and it felt like there was noone else in the room and it was just me and him ! and i new then that i loved him and he was right for me ! im still in love with him and he makes me very happy.

so i think that you should support your friend, when your in love nothing can change how you feel for eachother, you should support her and accept all the changes she wants to make and be happy for her and be there as a friend and if this thing doesnt work out for her then be there for her then aswell!
hope this helps !
(oh and sorry for getting all mushy lol)
SS x

[nat_84]

Definately think this couple are rushing things....

7 weeks just isnt long enough to get to know someone - well not long enough to get married!

I think u should be honest with ur mate, not rude or abrupt just tell her that u will support her in whatever she decides but give her alternatives like 'moving in' as you've suggested.

I dont beleive in love at first sight but do believe certain couples can 'click' immediately - although the rough patches and arguments will eventually begin - its only natural.

[devilwoman]

i remember falling in love the first time at 16, i thought i loved him at first sight, but is impossible , they mey look sexy?fit or whatever but you dont know them, my first love was great for the first 2 months then the violence showed itself and i endured 7 months of hell before managing to get the hell out of there, this guy may not be a bad person but you cant love something you dont know.

[Scarlett]

There is such a thing as chemistry at first sight, no doubt. You see someone you fancy, they fancy you back- instant sparkles. Then you both decide with the initial chemistry that you are in "love" and therefore must get married. It takes at least 2 years before you really know that person- warts and all, and you have learnt how to resolve arguments etc.

I think you should be honest with your friend, and say that it's great that she has found someone special, but in your opinion she should wait a while and move in together first. There are all sorts of legal things she needs to be aware of as well, if they get married. He may turn out to be an arse, or a gold digger, or a waster, or a paedophile. (I have seen it happen.) If she gets cross it is only cos she knows you are right, deep down.

[tradey]

course i believe,it was love at first sight for me and my hubby,we meet in a club i thought ill marry him one day,and you know what weve been married for 22yrs and hes still the love of my life after all this time.

[Xavier X]

It's lust that happens at first sight, not love. Having said that - 7 weeks isn't exactly "first sight". Chances are your friend is still in the throdes of that initial rush and is allowing this to rule her more objective side. I think you're spot on when thinking about advising they move in together before committing themselves any deeper. Be honest when asked for your thoughts on the situation - it's possible to do this without being negative or giving her grief - but, as a friend, you should support her decision and provide practical help if she needs it. We all deserve the right to make a mistake after all. As someone who took a decision against all my friends advice and regretted it later I can tell you that the fact that I received support and didn't once hear "I told you so" made the whole disaster something I could take a degree of comfort from.

[caz21]

Its far too soon to be thinking of getting married! I think they have just got caught up in the moment being in the loved up stages but believe me when you get to know someone properly they can turn out to be a completely different person!

Sounds to me like you won't be able to do much to change their minds though and at the end of the day it is their decision, so i suggest you be supportive, let them do it their way and if it works out wonderful, but be prepared to help pick up the peices if it goes wrong, and never say i told you so!

[yinyang]

I do believe in love at first sight -it happened to my husband and I. BUT if I still think this couple are rushing things a bit. If they are so sure they are in love for ever then why do everything so quickly? She should definitely move in with him first. The first rush of love and lust is very different to the ups and downs of everyday life.

[lia*]

i do believe it can happen but it's rare. my hubby said he fell for me the first time he saw me and he knew he met his "until death do us part" mate.

[wilsonator]

Its all about seing somebody you fancy and them turning out to be your partner aswell as soul-mate.

Its just luck, nowt to do with fate.

Fate would be if you fell off a cliff and did the same with the nurse that saves you!

[PinkFizz]

I believe in lust at first sight,which can very very quickly turn to love.But I think she is rushing things far too quickly.If they know they want to spend the rest of their lives together then whats the hurry??
Have you met this guy?

[Spcl22]

Thats the 'other thing'..... I have met him once. I'd actually seen him 2 weeks before I met him, standing in a bar, whilst waiting for my mates. He was also standing at the bar.... we never spoke or anything like that...he was just someone across the room. Anyway, when I did meet him, I said to him "ohhh, I saw you a couple of weeks ago in ***** bar"....he said "yeah, I saw you too...I thought you looked really fit"........ I immediately took a dislike to him, as I thought that wasn't really an appropriate thing to say to his new birds best mate!!!!

[PinkFizz]

Hmmmmm,how old is this guy and your friend?

[Spcl22]

my mate is 33 and her chap is 37....

[froggo]

love at first sight ?
definately, i met my wife when i was 13 and moved to a new school. i knew i loved her at that moment but it took another 6 years for her to dump her then bf before i could make the move
now im 31 and we get happier every minute,
weve been married for 9 years and have 2 great kids
definately worth the wait.
B-)

[Veggibear]

Aw froggo that's so sweet.

[froggo]

it can happen, alot of people dont think so but it can,
if you truly love someone then there are no limits but it has to come from both sides so 7 weeks is not long enough to tell

[froggo]

ps thnx vegibear