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Me & My Son's Friend
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I am 47 year old woman with 2 kids - I had them very young (my first when I was 18) and am divorced and been single for about 3 years.
Then about 4 months ago I met one of my 26 year old son's friends (he is 29) - it was an instant attraction for both of us and within a week he asked me out and within 10 days we had seen each other 5 times and started sleeping together.
Now 4 months on, I feel I am falling in love with him and cant stop thinking about him or wanting to be with him - and he says he feels the same.
Am I just being a silly old woman, or could this really work out? And if so, how do we tell my son? As he still doesn't know about me and his good friend. Or should i just back away totally?
Then about 4 months ago I met one of my 26 year old son's friends (he is 29) - it was an instant attraction for both of us and within a week he asked me out and within 10 days we had seen each other 5 times and started sleeping together.
Now 4 months on, I feel I am falling in love with him and cant stop thinking about him or wanting to be with him - and he says he feels the same.
Am I just being a silly old woman, or could this really work out? And if so, how do we tell my son? As he still doesn't know about me and his good friend. Or should i just back away totally?
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who can tell if it would work out or not. I have to say though that you really shouldve thought to tell your son earlier than this. he may support you both in this but he could also feel hurt that you both kept it from him.
You should both know your son better than anyone on here so should be able to come up with a way of telling him and explaining why you kept it from him
You should both know your son better than anyone on here so should be able to come up with a way of telling him and explaining why you kept it from him
I would say this ... it will be amazing and heady and wonderful but it will not last and you may get hurt in the end, but if you just enjoy it then that is the way to do it. But if you think of being in love and settling down for the rest of your life then it is very very unlikely to work, sorry, but that is life. It does not mean that while it lasts it is not caring and loving and all the things that love can be. The only problem is your son might not see it that way ... If you can enjoy it and be prepared to let go when the time comes and part with mutual respect then I would say go for it.
You won't want to hear this, but I think you should back off. I'm not denying that there is probably a great sexual attraction between you, but let's face the reality. He's not going to want to have a long-term serious relationship with you which ends in marriage. Sooner or later he's going to want the serious things in life like having children and I very much doubt whether he's going to want you to be the mother of his child, or whether he will want to be the step father of your 26 year old son.
Your son is going to be mortified, humiliated and embarrassed when he finds out. Yes, OK, you're free to do what you like and your son is not your keeper, but he is more likely to be around in twenty years time and this other guy isn't. I wonder whether it's worth destroying your credibility in your son's eyes just for a fling. You're his mother for goodness sake - somebody he should be able to respect and look up to. It must be enormously flattering to have the attention of somebody who is twenty years younger than you, but try and see it for what it is and don't let the excitement of it go to your head.
Your son is going to be mortified, humiliated and embarrassed when he finds out. Yes, OK, you're free to do what you like and your son is not your keeper, but he is more likely to be around in twenty years time and this other guy isn't. I wonder whether it's worth destroying your credibility in your son's eyes just for a fling. You're his mother for goodness sake - somebody he should be able to respect and look up to. It must be enormously flattering to have the attention of somebody who is twenty years younger than you, but try and see it for what it is and don't let the excitement of it go to your head.
Well, a few years ago my mum started seeing a 22 year old (she was 42 at the time!). She kept it a secret (me and my sisters knew him - oh, and she was still married to my Dad!) and when we found out from somebody else we were mortified. In our opinion this guy was a complete pillock and we didn't speak to my mum for a while - especially because of the lies etc. BUT they moved in together and got married and now have been together just over six years. AND still very happy. We still aren't 100% about this guy but because it makes her happy, we are fine with them. I think the moral of my story is be honest with your son and even if he turns against you, it won't last long - he still loves you. Just please make sure that this guy really is worth it. Thanksfully my mum's fella was. Good luck.
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