Sent Text Message to Wrong Person!

[CosmoK]

Hi, I have a very good friend, Lisa who recently became pregnant. It wasn't planned and it was a total shock to everyone and her. We live about 3 hours away from each other. She didn't phone me or text to let me know. I found out from someone else. I felt for her and desperately tried to phone/text with no response. This happened about a month ago and I was giving her 'space'. Another friend, Jack, happened to be in her town last night and met up with Lisa. I felt a little put out by this, as Lisa has not contacted me but met up with Jack. So I sent a message to her saying 'are you ****** off with me?', and then another message intended for Jack saying 'is she ****** off with me? I think she is. cause i haven't heard from her in months'. Only now Lisa got the two messages and probably feels bad. I suppose that I shouldn't have made the situation about me, that is, being childish saying 'are you ****** off at me', when I know she isn't. But since we were such close friends, I hate the way she is meeting up with other people and not replying to my texts or phone messages.

What do you think is the next step for me?
Thanks x

[4getmenot]

Well if she hasnt replied to that then she obviously isnt bothered but if it has upset her, then its only how you fealt and really if she is that good a met she should have been in contact. Get rid I say.

[lady_p_gold]

Well really all your emotion came from the fact that you felt a little excluded, so I think I would text her again and say something like "please give me a call or text, I would love to hear all about the baby and I even sent a text to Jack asking if you were annoyed with me, but only cos I am worried that we are losing contact. Sorry if I am acting a bit silly but its only because I value our friendship!! "

[lady_p_gold]

And if she doesn't answer that then to hell with it !!

[scuzzball]

How about phoning her and having a talk? A little radical, I know, but you could the aksk her how she is and perhaps discuss the situation. I don't understand this texting thing - it really isn't the best way to communicate in situations like this.

[CosmoK]

Scuzz, I totally agree. Just in relation to the texting, there is something wrong with her phone and it is nearly impossible to get through to her this way. I would prefer to actually talk to her, as text messages are problematic and can be taken the wrong way.
I am going to do what lady_p said and send her something along those lines.
By the way it isn't the 'f' word blanked out in the question, its the 'p' word! Thanks for all your answers.

[M0nkeyTennis]

Phone her instead

[vicalncraig]

If she wasn't ****ed off with you, she sure is now!!

[WendyS]

Texting is so impersonal. It's really hiding behind a phone. If she's really a friend, why not pick up the phone, ring her and sort it out.

[scuzzball]

Thats what I said!!!!

[CosmoK]

I completely agree with other posters about the texting thing. I HATE it too. However, I neglected to mention that I have phoned her lots of times. She has had major problems with this phone, eg. never hears it and never has any credit to call back. So texting is actually the only way to get in touch with her much as I dislike it. Anyway I've done what lady_p said and sent her a non-childish sensible text this time! Thanks for your answers.

[lady_p_gold]

Hope it works !