Cinema with (girl) friend... :-D

[rikashade]

Hi everyone, im a 14 guy and i have spoken to a girl i know about 5 times in total and we get along really great and all and we have arranged to go to the cinema next week. I really like her and i think she likes me and there has been alot of flirting type convosation over the last few days and now im not sure what to do at the cinema. Do i call it a date? Do i pay for her? Do i hold hands with her (thats what im planning to do)? Do i kiss her... should i kiss her?
As you can see im quite nervous so i really want to know what you think about it and maybe what you would do or want to do...
Thanks

[raysparx]

Hi,

I would say you should pay for her, I think it is a date, holding hands would be nice,if you are going to kiss her it will come naturally,if you don't kiss her while you are out,make sure you take her all the way home to her door,then give her a kiss goodnight,if it goes well just ask her if she would like to go out again,if she says yes,then think of different places to take her, holding hands for the first time with a girl you like is a beautiful feeling,enjoy your date,hope it goes well for you, Ray

[B00]

Awww bless your little cotton socks xxx

Priesty, is that how you speak to all 14 year old children? I hope you're really embarrassed over your pathetic attempt at humour, ya twonk!

anyway, sorry, I digress...back to the question. Yes I would consider it a date, but please don't tie yourself up in knots over what you should and shouldn't do. Do what you feel like doing at the time. You want to hold hands? so offer your hand and see how she reacts. She obviously likes you too and providing you don't do anything too silly (like Priesty's suggestion!) you'll be fine.

enjoy yourself.
:-)

[~posy-jo~]

pmsl @ priesty!! please don't do that!!! offer to pay for her then when ur sat in the cinema put your hand on the arm rest of the chair so it falls a little bit to her side, see where she puts her hand, if it is anywhere close to yours then try to hold her hand. when you have conversations make sure you are face to face with her. just see what happens and try to relax mate, if it is going to happen it will. hope you have a good night. let us know how it goes xXx

[raysparx]

You are right B00,I hadn't seen the first reply till I posted, that is out of order,this is a 14 year old come on,have a bit of decency.

[claireyfairy]

Aww bless ya chick! Well don't be too nervous, she likes you already or she wouldn't have agreed to go out with you in the first place. Offer to pay for her ticket but don't go skinting urself paying for popcorn and stuff to, we all know what it's like getting fleeced for pick n mix to the cinema, plus if she's nice and you pay for the tickets she may pay for the munchies! ;-) Hold her hand if it feels right and the same goes for the kiss, but not in the middle of the film save it for later.

And don't pull the "hole in the bottom of the popcorn tub" trick unless you want to risk loosing ur bits when she goes mad!!!!!

[B00]

thanks Ray,
I'm actually fuming at what he said (reported it too). I'd be spitting feathers if anyone said that to my 14 year old- this is supposed to be a family site for Gods sake!

[devilwoman]

hi rikashade, at you age you probably dont get that much money so i suggest aspecially as its a first date, why not go dutch ie you pay for the tickets and she pay for popcorn and drinks, or the other way round, dont be nervous you've chosen the right location anyway, you wont be able to talk much at the cinema cos you would disturb other people, so enjoy the film together and if you feel you should hold her hand, as for kissing i think if you wait till after, walk her homeand kiss her goodnight at the gate, that should be ok for now. remember she's a person talk to her about her hobbies, intersts fave bands and so forth, girls like boys who show an interest in them that way, good luck on the date.

[rikashade]

what a fool, thanks for all the great comments been alot of help! Yea i will definatly tell you all how it went next week and by the sounds of it its just a case of looking for the signs and how to react to them...
Anyway thanks again and just liek to point out priesty is just jelous as i have something to put into a tub :-)
Thanks

[raysparx]

Hi B00,glad you did,I was just going to report it,as you say,this is a young lad on a date,we all remember how lovely these first dates are, take care, Ray xx

[raysparx]

youv'e got a lot of sense you will be ok,it's not a bad thing to be nervous,shows you care, Ray

[amazingtoxic]

Hey there, test the water first, when you first see her, walk up to her say hi, give her a kiss on the cheek and ask her how she is. Look at her reaction, you can usually tell from then on what she expects from that evening.

Be a complete gentleman, girls love it, thats whats make a guy stand out from the croud.

Good luck let us know how it goes.

[rikashade]

That sounds like a very good thing to do... only worry is, do you think a kiss on the cheek might be going to far for the first time of meeting out of school?

[raysparx]

A kiss on the cheek or a kiss on the hand should be fine,you will get a feeling of what feels right,holding hands is the first step,it is such a nice thing to do, Ray