How do you move on?

[Amiira]

Sorry, as I am boring some with my questions. But how do you move on when a long time relationship ends?

[petes_dragon]

I think you've got to do a few things

1: Cry
2:get very drunk
3: mope
4: shop

then I think you've just got to bite the bullet and get back out there!!......

A xXx

[Amiira]

Have done all them Petes........maybe I will feel better tomorrow xx

[jno]

time heals all wounds. But although it can be useful to look at it as analytically as possible, to see what went wrong and whether there's anything you could have done better, try not to let yourself be immobilised by memories; as far as you can, tell yourself firmly that the past is the past, and that you are entering a new life.

[mlbt]

I take a different angle; the past is what makes you in the present. Your relationships, both good and bad ones will always contribute to your personality, and what you have learnt recently will undoubtedly be useful in a future relationship, be it platonic or not.
Whilst i agree that you should only move forward, you should never regret any experiences that you have had. evaluate, but more importantly be honest to, yourself and never ever rush into anything that you even suspect may be a crutch
good luck

[Rufio]

Slowly, in my experience. Don't know how long your relationship lasted, someone on here suggested it takes you half as long as it did to get over it again. My advice is just to accept that it happened, and get back out there straightaway meeting other guys.

[Wee Kaz]

I took me 2 years to get over my ex and I was in the relationship for 6 years and I was the one who ended it! He was my first love so it's always difficult. To fill the void I took out a gym membership and went to the gym about 3/4 times a week, I made new friend and ended up going out with my gym instructor for a while but on the whole it takes a lot of time. Get yourself out and about with other friends, go to the pub and find new interests x

[stressed out]

Hi Amiira, i'm sure you're peeved at hearing everyone quoting that same old "Time is a great healer".. but really it is.

The way i coped with my last relationship was that i changed my life and routine, that way nothing reminded me of him and i would'nt have to burst into tears whenever i did something we usually did or went somewhere we used to go together. It is a big thing to do but even if you change just those things in your life that remind you of him/her.
I suddenly found my confidence again, got back in touch with all my friends, (whom he did'nt like and i never saw cos i was too wrapped up in him!), and i started a new job! I even lost a bit of weight in the process,( all that moping about and not eating because food was a happy thing and i did'nt feel happy so i just smoked alot! Not good either.)

I found that when i started the new job i started to make new friends, dress more classy and sexy and even attracted more guys than i had before!

I know every situation is different but i hope this has been of some help to you and good luck!

p.s; big hug for you...

[Amiira]

Sorry for my delay in responding to your replies. I feel like s*it. to put it mildly. But thank you all for answering x

[elpea]

Amiira I hope you're feeling better today. I don't have any good tips, but just remember you're not alone, and you have the support of fellow ABers!