have you ever met anyone from a chat room?

[littlechick]

i'd love to hear your experiences if you have - my friend is meeting a guy she's been chatting online to everyday for weeks. they've swapped photos but haven't even spoken on the phone. They're also meeting in a hotel. Is this a mad idea? she's told a few people about it, and she's said she won't go off in the car with him, but I think she's mad

[mnko]

my wife five years yesterday

[Suzyboo]

Strange not to have even spoken on the phone before meeting though.

[mnko]

how old is your friend?
be very careful loads of nutters out there, i met many women from chatrooms b4 i met my wife and some were scary. but most were just as they said they were. getting in someones car is a no no. make sure after 30 mins of her meeting him you arrange to phone her then and if its not as she thought then she makes her excuses and leaves. make sure alot of people know where is. good luck

[Froggy_Queen]

Always spoken on the phone before hand!

I've met 4 or 5 and only stayed in touch with one of them after we met up. But then he's the only one out of them that was truly lovely in real life, the others were just odd!

Tell her to be really careful and make sure you give her the emergency phone call opportunity!

[whiffey]

Not spoken on the phone for a prolonged period ?

Madness.

Photos are genuine of course.

[petes_dragon]

make sure she meets in a public place - like the bar or restaurant, rather than in his room - also make sure you (or someone) has a contact number for the hotel as well as her mobile number - maybe you could arrange a call at a pre-arranged time, just so you can check all is ok!!

I'm sure everything will be fine and he will be a lovely guy, but you just can't be too careful!!

A xXx

[Cobra.]

hes probably a mad axe murderer

[caz247]

i think she's mad but i take it you've told her that.
do you know the name of the hotel she's going to in case of emergency (not that i'm saying he's not genuine)
but you never know.
i've been speaking to a guy everyday for few weeks on msn
but i doubt if i would meet up with him, and not just because of the distance he is in north of England and i'm in Glasgow
hopefully though she will be okay if it's just a drink in the bar for example and other people know she will be there

[wonderful]

I met my Husband in a chat room on the amstrad phone i had . We chatted 4 a couple of days and he asked 4 my number , so I gave it him . We spoke every day 4 two - three hours and after 2 weeks he came to see me . He lived in somerset and I liverpool. I met him at bus station . Anyway to cut a long story short I moved 2 somerset , came back with him , we got engaged after two weeks and married after eight months . We have been married 2 years now , very happy . It can work , but I think your friend should speak to him 4 a while on phone first, my friends thought I was mad too , but I chatted on phone. This man could be anyone , why have they not spoken to each other?

[naz_nomad]

How old is your friend?

[klou15]

I have met two.. however i speak to them on msn and have seen them on webcam so i knew exactly who i was meeting.

[Blyss]

met my hubby online , although he was in the states and I am in scotland , we spoke on the fone every day for 7 months before he came over here.
Pics and chat are ok , but she needs to speak to him on the phone as well , if not she doesnt really have any idea who she is meeting , pic might not be him either.
She should also take a friend along with her when shes meeting him , so she feels a bit safer or her friend can suss him out as well .
The hotel is a bad idea as well , maybe a resturant ????.
she should also tell ppl where she is and who with , take her cell fone with her so yall can check on her every 30 mins or so .
oh n yes I think its a very bad idea , unless she puts what I said into plan.
good luck .

[David H]

I avoid chatroom unless I know the people already online, but met a number of people from another forum I'd spoken to for a few years and they were just like old friends I'd known all that time. If you have been speaking by email or phone for a while you'll know if you get on more or less plus I've met a couple of women from dating sites and went out with one for some time.

[littlechick]

Thanks for your advice. To answer your questions, she's 29 and quite streetwise. They haven't spoken on the phone because they like to keep the air of mystery, which I think is plain weird. She's told me where the hotel is, it's in our home town so she's not travelling to a strange place. Anyway,I'm still going to try and change her mind. I'll keep you posted

[sandyg2244]

I have to say I met my bf online but made sure i spoke to him on the phone first.It's not exactly 'seeing the whites of someone's eyes' as they say, but I think you can tell a lot from actually talking to someone.Put it this way, she's at no more risk than meeting someone in a pub and not using her judgement .Just make sure she texts you or whatever regularly to let you know she's ok.A week is not long enough in my opinion to gauge whether he's trustworthy or not but let her know although, you're concerned, you'll watch out for her.

[Blyss]

an air of mystery could be .

a fat bald guy who smeels of chicken fat , who wipes his butt with his fingers , lives with his momma and 12 cats .
to the "mystery I say ...f***k that!!!!!

[philandlil]

i met my boyfriend on a chat room 5 yrs ago, i had already spoken to him and had a photo so i knew who i was meeting and i gave my friend his home address when i went to meet him. tell her to meet him in a public place, maybe you could go with her and stay with them for an hour to check everythings ok.

[littlemissx]

i think she will be fine, you know where she is going and times etc. warn her not to go up to a room with him, go out for a meal or something

[luckyeight]

True about the whole no less risk than mtg someone in a pub... She must take reasonable precautions tho like arranging a phone call to say she's ok etc - common sense stuff. But I have lots of friends who regularly rendezvous with internet lovers all over the UK. To be fair, they usually tend not to be mad axe murderers.