What would you do if...

[JOEYGREEN]

It was my birthday yesterday and my partner couldn't be bothered to get up and get the cards and a cup of tea (like we normally do). So I did it myself, then he got up and went to football. I asked him if he was coming straight back after seeing as its my bday. He said yes so I went food shopping and came back. I noticed that the footballers had already left the field so I rang his mob & he didn't answer. I rang again a bit later and he was in the pub with the lads. He finally got back and I asked him if he wanted to help me cook the dinner. He said yes but then sat on his backside until I'd done it all. I made a massive sunday roast and then he couldn't eat it because he'd had lasagne at the pub!!! (they provide food after matches). He then went up to bed for the rest of the night (it was only about 4.30pm!). How bl**dy selfish is that. I was so hurt by his actions. It was one day that was for me and he couldn't be *rsed. He's tried to be nice to me this morning but I've just ignored him because I'm so cross about it. We go away at the end of this week and I normally sort his stuff out and iron his shirts etc. Do you think I should let him do it himself or just do it and forget about it to save arguments?

[mandimoo]

the sensible thing would be to talk it through when you are not so stung by his actions - easier said than done. my EX boyfriend decided he was going out on a 2 day (without coming home) bender on the day my dad went in for a serious operation. i was unable to get over his thoughlessness and he couldnt see what hed done wrong. anyway, i sacked him!
perhaps you could show him this email thread ?

[Rubyrose]

I wouldn't cook, clean, iron or do anything else for him until he realises why! Men are stupid but they aren't that stupid! He will pretend he hasn't done anything wrong but the second he realises he won't be getting dinners he will suddenly remember and be ever so sorry! But I think it will take a bigger gesture than an 'Im sorry' to make up for this one!

[joko]

he's a big boy - let him do his own packing!!

that's the trouble with a lot of men - they start to behave like you are their mother and expect to be looked after.

show him that if he can't 'look after you' on your birthday then you won't look after him either.

if you don't do it and he forgets something or feels embarrassed, you can guarantee you won't need to pack his bags for him ever again - he will ensure its done right himself next time

(you could even teach him a lesson and pack all the wrong things, squash them in and forget his basics like shaving cream or whatever - he will have to go to the shops)