Am I Gullible..............

[sandrajo]

I think I am a really nice person, I get on well with everyone and have loads of friends, I always give people the benefit of the doubt and I'm honest and trust worthy. So why is it a new friend of mine has just made a complete fool out of me, why? I don't know, it is really getting me down as I've never been treated like this before. What should I do, wallow around in self pity, or hold my head up high and get over it. ( you just can't switch your feelings off though can you)

[BigBishop]

There you've just answered your own question.
Next.

[sandrajo]

I did, but no explanation has been given, not answering my call, I have just been made a fool of, no big deal eh, sorry I asked the question now, but thanks for all your thoughts and advice.

[BigBishop]

Maybe ask your true friends for advice, they know you best.

[kissyfur]

Just a question but is this friend male or female?

[sandrajo]

male, and it was friendship nothing else

[BigBishop]

I guess he may have wanted more than just friends.

[sue11]

sandrajo, don't be sorry you asked the question, that is what this site is here for! But there are some very no nonsense people who post on here who are not as sympathic as others, but they still give good advice though!
My further advice would be to ask some of your friends. Perhaps she has done this to others as well and they have not told anyone out of embarrasment? If this is the case, then you will know that she is not just targeting you, but really is just a sad person that everyone will soon get fed up of!
Cheers Sue

[sandrajo]

My true friends did warn me of him, I feel a tad foolish asking their advice, another reason I asked on here.

[sue11]

oops sorry, just seen she is a he!

[BigBishop]

Its a he

[BigBishop]

sounds like he was bad news from the start then.
Listen to your friends advice in future.

[kissyfur]

I asked because I had the EXACT same thing with a male friend of mine, what you decribed rang so true as what my "mate" did to me. If hes anything like my friend he'll come crawling back when he wants something, they always do. x

[sue11]

I agree with Bigbishop that he probably was bad news. But if you are like me, I tend to try to make up my own mind about people, rather than judge them on others opinions. Your friends may say I told you so, if it was me I would laughingly and ruefully agree with them, but at least you can learn from this and move one.
Cheers Sue

[sandrajo]

I will Big Bishop, and thanks for all your advice.

Thanks sue11 for caring, I appreciate it.

[jno]

no harm in asking advice; nobody who hasn't met the person in question can truly judge, but a rule of thumb is that not everybody is nice, and some of those who aren't can nonetheless seem so. By all means feel cross for a couple of days, then you'll find it fading as you get on with your life. Learn what you can about the specific things this guy did -but don't become defensive or distrusting or anti-male. It may even happen again some day; what you really have to learn is not to mind too much.

[DotH]

hi sandra

was this someone you actually have met face to face? That is the best way to have friends you know, anything else is always open to disapointment and misunderstandings.

Dotty
xxxx

[BigBishop]

Dots right, there are no real friends in cyberland

[sandrajo]

Yes dot I have met the person, thanks for all the advice

[Simes]

I would say that if someone is willing to make a fool out of you, then they are not a friend. There are people willing to do this and they need to be ignored. It is very disappointing though, and I can imagine how it can feel.

Don't take it too much to heart or too personally because people who are willing to do this would do it to anyone.

Let your light shine. One way you could look at it is to pity someone who is willing to behave in this way.