It works for some people, it didn't for me. Funny thing is if his girlfriend hadn't walked out on him we would'nt have got back together. But we did and had seven more years together, first 5'ish were good, but I never trusted him again, with good reason as it turned out., The 2nd time we split my son was 14 and it was a lot harder for him second time around. One of the problems for you is if you don't try - you'll always wonder ????? such a big decision for you, good luck with whatever you decide.