help i need advice!!!!

[caz247]

about six years ago i went out with a really nice guy but i dumped him and hate to admit this but i didn't realise then how i felt. anyway i didn't see him for a few years but got in touch with him when my mum died but only as friends. he sent me a letter asking me to try again but i was seeing someone else at the time so didn't reply. about seven months ago i bumped into him and we have kept in touch regularly although nothing has happened.
we had a heart to heart one night at his flat and he told me how i broke his heart and how he would have married me and it took him six months to get over me. i then got admitted to hosp and was kept in for six weeks and wrote to him telling him how i felt but he has never said that he got the letter.he took me to a theme park with his son about a month ago and we had a great time and we chatted about the past but i know deep down he will never take me back. i went to a hen night two weeks ago and texted him from the pub telling him i missed him. the reply was "about us remember it's not you it's me, get yourself a fella tonite" I don't know if he was being serious or not but i miss him so much and because i hurt him so badly before i know he will never give me a second chance.
any advice would be good thanks

caz x

[Neenee]

caz,

have you asked him outright, if he would take yu back?

i would ask him, especially as you are able to be so open with one another....

if he says no then, then you know you should move on.... but if i felt like yu, i would be inclined to ask him outright.


im not sure i agree with Ward~Minter, as regards six months not being a long time. Who knows what is the right length of time, people deal with things differently and handle hurt in all sorts of ways.

as i said, i would just ask him, and then take things from there.

good luck xx

[caz247]

hi neenee
the nite we had the heart to heart he didn't exactly say six months but that it took him a long time to get over me.i texted him the next day but he didn't reply for two days and the reply was "sorry i took so long to reply very worried if i stir up old feelings i will get hurt again" i have stayed over at his a few times since that nite but nothing has happened at all. there is no one else in the picture and he hasn't been with anyone since me.the day at the theme park he asked me in the middle of our picnic why i dumped him and i said i really don't know.
i don't know whether to mention the letter i sent or not as he has never said he received it.
i miss him so much

caz x

[mccfluff]

Caz you need to talk to him and tell him how you feel, ok you hurt him in the past but that was six years ago, chances are you have diff priorities now and are looking for something different out of a realtionship and you need to make him understand that. good luck