liking someone

[liquidspace]

If you knew that somebody liked you but you didnt particularly have strong feelings back for them, would you ask them out?

A guy at work has asked me to go for something to eat and he knows that I like him, Im not sure of his feelings though, I think he just likes me as a friend. How can I tell?

[dantheman123]

Speaking from a mans point of view, we dont ask girls out for something to eat because we just want to be friends. He knows that you like him so just asking you out as a friend seems a bit like he is playing with your emotons. You should accept his offer and just see where it goes. Good luck XX

[andy-hughes]

If he likes you enough to ask you out, then at least ytou have a chance to find out his feelings.

You will get a vibe during the evening, but remember, he may be a little shy.

Women are far more intuitive about these things, you will know by the end of the evening if he likes you or not. Make it clear, but not obvious, that you;d like a goodnight kiss - if he does, he will, if not, you'll know.

[spk]

You will maybe have a better idea when you go out, he might like you just not show it very well. Did he ask you out out of the blue or had you talked about it before?

[redcrx]

If i didnt fancy a guy who fancied me then i certainly wouldnt ask him out. It wouldnt be fair to get their hopes up.

Is he asking you out on a date? or is it just to nip out for lunch or something?

Just go for something to eat with him and judge the situation at the time.

Good luck

[jeanette1976]

Hi liquidspace, forgive me for pointing something out, but you wrote earlier that your BOYFRIEND has said for you to ggo out... what about this guy? You wouldn't go behind your boyfriend's back would you?

Oh well, just jealous! hahaha.... have a good one whatever you do! X

[liquidspace]

The thing is I have been out with him before to this cafe and I have walked his dogs with him. We texted each other for a while too, we arranged to go to a concert together and then he told me he had met a woman and was going to go with her and was sorry to let me down. The thing is he has never indicated anything other than friendship I guess and I think my feelings go deeper. Maybe Im looking for something that isnt there, but when he asked me to go out today I thought hmm does he like me or is he playing with me.

[liquidspace]

V quickly, yes I do have a boyfriend but he treats me pretty badly and has lost thousands of pounds of my money...long story...wont go into...

[spk]

ohh yeah jeanette well spotted ! Ah well enjoy liquidspace whatever happens !

[spk]

out with the old in with the new liquidspace, dont let anyone treat you badly x

[4getmenot]

I wouldn�t go out with someone if I didn�t like them, I think maybe you just like the attention that this other man is giving you because your boyfriend isn�t treating you the way you deserve. Believe me I have just been in the very same situation but it isn�t fair on this other bloke.

[redcrx]

liquidspace. If you have a boyfriend that thinks so little of you then dump him. Dont wait around for the next relationship to use as an excuse.
If this guy used to go out with you as a friend before then id say nothings changed now and he just wants the friendship again.

[Champagne]

In general I would have to agree with dantheman and say that if a guy asks you out it's probably because he's interested in you. However, there are always exceptions to this rule and this guy does sound as though he just wants to be friends with you. If you've been out a few times together already and he has not shown any other indication other than being friends, then it's unlikely to change.

Try not to get too hung up on him. There's plenty of guys out there that I'm sure you're compatible with.

[liquidspace]

I cannot leave my bf at the moment because of v complicated financial reasons. Anyway moving on from that...I am crazy about this guy at work and therefore its hard for me going out with him if he just sees it as friendship when I feel more.

He is extremely intelligent and I guess Im flattered that he seems to like me. im just hoping he gives me some indication of stronger feelings...

[4getmenot]

Ok even if financial reasons arent great, that really isnt a good enough reason to stay with someone. If you share your home then you can still share and be seperated, just think of him as a lodger. I hope that this man does like you and isnt just asking you out to lead you on, you seem a nice genuine person that deserves it, But please even if your boyfriend is horrible dont start cheating on anyone, you're better than that, if you really have to use protection. :-) Good luck. xx

[liquidspace]

No its not like that, Im not talking about sex, it wont be anything like that. At the moment its just a friendship that I want to develop into something more. I dont think he would lead me on like that as he is a nice person, I guess the only person that can tell if he likes me is HIM!
:o)

[4getmenot]

yer I know, but obviously if you start seeing him and it leads to more and you're still with boyfriend then just be safe :-) I''m sure he likes you, but dont be just seeing what he does in regards to what you do with your boyfriend. xx

[liquidspace]

I wont - the two are worlds apart!! Thanks for the advice.

[4getmenot]

But are you going out tonight?

[liquidspace]

Ha ha - well remembered!!

Still unsure, waiting to hear from the girl I was going with, if she is up for it , then hell yeah Im gonna go for it - :o)

[4getmenot]

Good on ya, have a great night :-)