My best friend's husband..

[harriet99]

Is a A**hole! I really can't stand him. He is a manipulative gold digging creep. How can I still see my friend without faking that I like him. I would love to just ignore him completely, but this would hurt my friend. I can be civil, butI can't pretend I like someone if I don't!

[bubbly girly]

that's tough. Tell her that you want her and you to have a girl's night out and go have lunch together, just the 2 of you. It is good to see your girlfriends and be honest with them..... not have some guy that you don't like hang around! Good Luck

[JustSia]

I feel exactly the same way about my best friend's BF. My friend is aware of it as she knows I have her best interests at heart. I told her straight up that I do not approve of him, that I think he mistreats her and she will end up hurt. However, I have also told her that I can't change her mind about him or make her fall out of love with him but I will always be here for her if/when she needs me and I would not be saying 'I told you so' but simply comfort her as I know better than anyone love is blind and it takes time for the sight to come back.

We still spend time together. She often visits me and I consider her part of my family. I have told her I don't want to be around him, but should she wish to bring him (they live in London) I will be civil. He knows I don't like him but I have too much respect for my friend to come to full blows with him in front of her. The thing is she finds it easier to talk about him with me now because I think over time I have proven to her that I do not judge her and that way she can let out steam and slowly but surely regain her vision.

[noxlumos]

As someone who myself was disapproved of by my wife's friends ( some of them, not all by any means) I'd be as civil as you can be to him to be honest. I was called "manipulative", "psychotic", "dangerous", "evil" and a host of other inaccurate and choice descriptions by a gaggle of people who didn't know me. Eventually some of her friends became incompatible with our relationship full stop and she, ( not I), made the choice to exclude them further from her life. It was not something I particularly wanted her to do as predictably they then went running round all over the place saying I'd either bullied her into it or she was "blinded by love", niether of which was true. She just made an informed choice and found particularly the latter statement to be really rude and condescending, so if you want to hang onto your friend I'd make as much effort as possible with her nasty bf, as you may be wrong about him but even if you are right, it's her life, her decision and her mistake to make. Just be around afterwards if she needs you to be, and as JustSia said don't say "I told you so" :)