Sucker for a bad boy?

[spk]

why are women into bad boys? Why are they so appealing, is it the challenge of trying to tame one?

[Champagne]

I think it's the chase. Glenn Close's character in Dangerous Liaisons summed it up best.

Vicomte de Valmont: "Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?"

Marquise de Merteuil: "Immaturity?"

[spk]

very true Champagne- Ive had more than my fair share over the years but they are exhausting I cant be bothered with them anymore. I just want a nice man thats normal most of the time for a change instead of teetering on the edge with a bad boy !

[China Doll]

Bad boys are only good for one thing, never try and tame one... but then I'm one of those girls your mum warned you about ;0) (not).

[-Zorro-]

Im bad...any takers ?

[PinkFizz]

Are you offering Zorro?? And just how bad are you? ; )

[spk]

Zorro are you Zeus?

[noxlumos]

I was a very bad boy and I've been successfully tamed (well 99%), it just takes the right woman. My first wife didn't have a hope in hell.

[-Zorro-]

was

[smudge]

Well said spk - I've seen lots of tears from women who have started off with what they thought was 'Mr Nice Guy' & it all ending in heartache!

From what I've heard & seen, 'some' men can be very manipulative, sly & crafty!

Other's can see it a mile off - but 'love conquers all' as they say - sometimes!

P.S. BTW, this isn't a knock against all men - just a general reply to this specific question.

[China Doll]

Nox - Were you actually tamed or did you just want to settle down and your wife came along at the right time when you were happy in yourself etc...? I only ask as I don't believe any one person can and/or should change a person.

I think people change for themselves or they don't and if you like/love someone then you like them for what they are, not what they might be.

[PinkFizz]

How bad Nox??

[spk]

Zorro you are a little baddy then I remember you had a hareem at one stage !

I spent 7 hard years of my life trying to tame a bad boy and eventually gave up when I realised you cant change someone, and if he did change I would probably turn around and say you arent the man you used to be. I cant believe I put up with it for that long now it seems so stupid to me

[raysparx1]

I was a very naughty boy years ago, but I did change when I met mrs sparx, I have not been in trouble since we married, but sometimes when I see mates that are still a "bit naughty" and see how much more money they have,makes you think,but I wouldn't really go back to those days, Ray

[spk]

Ray what was it about Mrs Sparx that made you settle down? x

[wonderwoman1]

hiya spk....i am a definate sucker for a bad boy!! in my case it was because i knew my family would disapprove and i was going through a wee rebellious phase! its definatley the challenge...but i agree its exhausting!!.i have been involved with a few of them and needless to say they all broke my heart!!! i'm now trying to find a good boy...but i cant find one...especially in Edinburgh!!!

[raysparx1]

Hi spk,

I had a lot of friends that I hung around with,we were getting into some serious stuff, Not drugs, But I realised in time luckily that I had a choice, before I met her I thought only of Money and material things, she showed me love, some of my mates have spent years in Prison,others are millionaires and have never worked, but I am truly happy,with no regrets, my wife is very special, I would avoid hurting her,whatever the cost, take care, Ray xx

[Champagne]

I feel I should also add that for a long time I dated 'nice boys'. When it came to relationships I decided that I didn't want to be messed around and therefore 'nice boys' were the safest option.

I now don't believe there's any such thing as 'bad boys' and 'nice boys'. It seems the only difference between the two is that one set is more honest and open about who they are than the other!

My current boyfriend is a 'bad boy'. And like every other man on this planet, he's a w*nker!!

[mike42]

what in intriging question.
i know loads of girls who go for boys and men who treat them like sh**t then the get rid of em an go with another?
usually me ha ha.

[noxlumos]

Very bad to be honest Pink, violent, drink and drug abuser, aggressive, serial womaniser, thoroughly unpleasant a******e to be honest. I was just blown away by my wife's depth, serenity and goodness to be honest and it gave me something to live up to, wheras my first wife had been a shallow, stupid bint and very nearly as nasty as I was in her own way.Although I think the real me was in there somewhere all along, it was undoubtedly my second wife that changed me sufficiently to let him out.

[PinkFizz]

Wow Nox - thats quite a turn around.Your wife must be pretty special.(not that I know who she is - grrrrr).

You should write a book!