am i still in love?

[salisbury]

my ex girlfriend dumped me 5 months ago and i have been on holiday wirtth the lads since, but although i dont feel in love with her ( i am realising now why my family didnt take to her), I still think about her everyday.

Is this weird or is it just because she treated me mean so i am still kinda keen ?

id NEVER get back with her, but i just cant get her out of my head and im afraid if i meet someone new i will start comparing them.

[crete]

no disrespect but how old are you ?

[4getmenot]

If you stopped talking about her on here and talking about her full stop that would help. I think you are still in love. Because true love never dies, and this one is well and truely alive. This is why we said last week that you need to work on you, not think you need someone all the time

[salisbury]

i am 24 she is 21 and as soon as we finished she got back with an ex, while ive been trying to work through it and meet new people and have a laugh

i dont think about her in a loving way i just have the odd thought about her, but its EVERYDAY !

i dont talk to mates about her thats why i find it easier to share my feelings on here

i try and act like i dont care - because she really hurt me

[crete]

you could maybe move on and start living again .

[elpea]

it's really hard to get someone out of your head, especially if they've hurt you. You're doing the best thing - get away, get on with things and work on your friendships. You'll find the right thing to do with yourself in time, or find someone new to get excited about!!

[salisbury]

im doing my best ! ive just been to ibiza for 2 weeks with 2 mates and met loads of nice girls, and i know this girl isnt right for me but i just want to know why i still think of her even though i have met other / nicer girls recently

[4getmenot]

elpea he isnt doing the right thing at all. he mentions this every week. And we always tell him the same thing

[4getmenot]

but thats the thing you keep saying I've met this girl and that girl. You arent ready to meet anyone from what we read every week. You think you HAVE to but you dont. Be single have fun and when you least expect it you will fall in love again, and I cant wait for the day that we see a post that doesnt start my ex girlfriend... and starts with I'm in love... :-)

[teag1rl]

it's normal. I still think about someone I never even went out with every day, and before him I thought about my ex every day. Does not mean you're in love with them and it'll fade eventually. Carry on doing what you're doing and going out with your mates.

[crete]

salisbury, you sure your 24 you sound like a 13 year old, this girl hurt you and that is very sad but that is part of growing up and becoming a better person,,stop now or you will go loopy.

[salisbury]

how exactly do i sound 13 ?

[Octavius]

Well this has been going on a lot longer than 5 months hasn't it salisbury/jibjab? No you are not in love, but you are pining.

When a relationship ends (or you lose a loved on) it is always difficult moving on, and there should be no harm in thinking about the lost love - we all do it occassionally - even us married ones. But you need to put it all in perspective and as you have said, you can see now that she wasn't really right for you and even if she hadn't ended it - would things really be right and stay right between you?

As 4gotten has said, you do need to move on and this takes time. There will be an element of comparing with a few girls in the beginning but eventually you will find someone who ticks alll the boxes that your ex didn't and in time you will forget to remember her each day as you might well have someone else to think about and focus your attention on.

[Rubyrose]

I am in the same situation..... My ex broke up with me at Xmas and he is now with the girl he left me for and I am having the time of my life, going out, making new friends, have a new job.. etc.. and I KNOW I don't want him back and it would be a huge step back if I got with him again but I still think about him everyday and stuff! I think its coz of how things ended! His choice and not mine and I never got closure! I don't want him back but I want him to want me back and admit he was a pr!ck! I know I've moved on and am happier now but think that little piece of me will keep holding on until I know he regrets it! May never happen though... so I have to get over it!

xx

[4getmenot]

crete he doesnt, I'm sure many of us have been through this but we have all moved on and learnt like I hope he does, I really do.

[Mr Tall]

Has she got a sister or cousin you could crack on to, you don't even have to like them, it would **** her off no end and you might even get a sh@g out of it.

[Agent_Smith]

dont listen to crete,she is a kn0bhead!!

its faily normal to think of an ex, it may be down to the felling of rejection you may,or jelousy...but my personal favourite is sex!!

your thinking of the time it was on tap!!!!!!!

[elpea]

sorry 4getmenot

[4getmenot]

Oh elpea no need to apologise, I wasnt getting at what you said, I know you probably havent seen all his previous posts. If you put salisbury in search option you'll get the jist :-)

[sandyg2244]

you just need to meet someone else, you're lonely, that's all.you sound to good for her(and your family are always a good judge of character beleive it or not).if you had met someone else like that hussy you'd not give her a second thought.