What would you do??

[PinkFizz]

Hypothetical question after chat with a friend:


What would you do if you knew your best friends partner was having an affair,and yet your friend not only didn't know,but was also blissfully happy in her/his relationship and you don't think they would ever believe you if you told them.

Would you try and tell them anyway as they deserve to know,and you couldnt stand by and watch their partner do this to them,or would you say nothing as you could shatter their life when they genuinely seem to be happily ignorant to the deceipt??

[ummmm]

I'd say something to the friends partner.

[redcrx]

Id take the friends partner to one side and give him/her a talking to! get him/her to either end his/her affair or tell his/her partner.
I probably wouldnt want to tell my mate, but would decide that on the outcome of the conversation with cheating party.
Of course it would depend on the friend, everyones different and can handle things in different ways.

[stylinsam]

i would say summit to the partner as well, let him / her, that u no of this affair , then maybe this will scare them abit as they no u no, tell him/her if u they dnt tel there partner then u will do it for them!!

[Goodsoulette]

My best friend? As long as I knew without a doubt, I would tell her. I would let the hubby know I knew and that I would tell her if he didnt but there is no way I would keep that from her. That would be cheating on her all over again.

[stylinsam]

morning by the way mwahxxxxxxxxxx

[nat_84]

Morning Pink. Good weekend?

I'd do as redcrx says, talk to your friends partner first.
As a friend i think (should things not improve), you should tell her, although be warned that she's bound to be upset and will probably have a go at you untill she's calmed down and thought about it logically.

Good luck which ever way you go about it.x

[dummkopf]

Having been in the position where everyone knew except me - I would tell your friend, but be sure of the facts first.

[Pippa68]

First of all I would make absolutely sure there was an affair going on by talking to the 'guilty' party. It's a difficult one, and I have been in the situation before ~ I didn't tell, and didn't win anything by not telling as my friend fell out with me for keeping it secret!

I guess from that experience I would now tell all..and if I were the one being cheated on I would want to know.

[PinkFizz]

Morning all you lovely people!!

This isnt anybody I know - I was just talking to my friedn about what each of us would do in this situation.

So what if you spoke to the partner and he/she refused point blank to stop the affair,but begged you not to tell the partner?

[redcrx]

my loyalty would be to my best friend. If the partner wouldnt confess or stop the affair then i would tell my friend.

[nat_84]

If he refused to end it - no doubt i'd tell my best mate.

[admarlow]

Id tell my mate straight away, as I think in the long run this is best.

[Octavius]

Hypo-fetically speaking (of course). If my best friends partner was having an affair with me, I wouldn't tell him.

[spk]

Mornin pink !

I would tell my friend 100% she would never forgive me if I didnt and I couldnt live with myself. Im too honest ! Good weekend pink? x

[PinkFizz]

lol@ Ockypoos!!

[PinkFizz]

Grear wkend spk - really really good.x

[spk]

grear eh? Combination of great and roar is always good ! ;o)

[PinkFizz]

Lol - oopsy!! I meant great - you knew that!

[spk]

I did just kidding. Goin well with fitty still- I have a permanent bonafide cheesy grin life is sweet ! :O)

[PinkFizz]

Oooh,so you're all loved up then!?