Define "going on a break"

[nat_84]

Me and my boyfriend are going on a "break" for a week- starting on Monday, hoping that it will help rekindle - our what is now a bit of a rubbish relationship - i.e. too many arguments not enough love.

We all know Ross and Rachel from Friends had a slight misunderstanding -
so when a couple are supposedly on a "break" what are the 'rules'?

[B00]

I'd take it as the "end is in sight" clue I'm afraid.

[nat_84]

lol - i have to agree BOO...which isnt good...!

[4getmenot]

just giving eachother space to realise how much they mean to eachother. No seeing eachother but no seeing anyone else either.

[nat_84]

what about talking on the phone?

[Casey]

I'd say no speaking on the phone either. Give each other about a month of total space, it will be hard but could well be worth it. You will either realise how much you miss and love eachother, or think that you want to start a fresh without eachother. No seeing other people either, maybe you could have a few girly nights and he could go out with the boys but strictly no 'pulling' anyone else!

[natalie_1982]

If it was me, I would spend a whole week of me time and not contact him if possible, I'm a firm believer in following gut instincts and if halfway through the week you want to call him then do so. I don't think it is much of a break if you speak on the phone every night though. And I would totally expect him to stay away from other ladies for that week, it is a break to work out your feelings not an excuse to go on the pull!

Probably best to clarify all this with him though

Hope it all works out sweetie x x (fill me in next Friday!)

[4getmenot]

well people's 'breaks are different, when I need space I still text them. Arent you better of asking boyf this. I mean we might say dont speak to him or ring him then he might think you've had enough and dump you anyway.

[nedflanders]

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[nat_84]

Of course ive spoken to my boyfriend about this!

We were both sort of like....hmm... lets say a week....speak on the phone once a day...no getting with anyone else....

Thanks natalie - i'll let u know on Friday!

[ummmm]

I've been on a break for a while now. Our agreement has been that we stay faithful to each other and basically act as if we are still in a relationship until we have sorted things out one way or another.

[nat_84]

how often do u speak on the phone?

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, why waste your money going on a break? The relationship is obviously over :( . if you would have both talked about things before it got this far, then it wouldnt be a weekend break, it would be a dirty weekend.:)

[nat_84]

lol ben....

Well we still love each other and want to spend time with each other - but we argue over little stupid things when we are togther...which are all building up!

We see each other WAY too much.

Its a sort of cant live with u, cant live without u kinda scenario...!

[MrBen5]

i know what you mean Nat. The best thing you can do is have a proper chat with him. I think you both need to decide on what you want from a relationship. It might be that you have got to a point where its just convenient to be with someone and the feelings you have are more 'family or friend' ones. i dont know if you understand what i mean.lol

[MrBen5]

Just to add actually, if i was in a relationship and she suggested a 'break' , then i would automatically think something was wrong. Once you 'break up' whether it be for a week or a day, i dont think you can ever go back to the way it was before. Being a guy, i certainly wouldnt knock back any potential girlfriends if i was told my 'current' girlfriend wanted a break. :)

[nat_84]

Dont worry Ben i understand you completely. U mean when it gets to the stage where you're together more for the convienience or just because its routine and comfortable for you both.

Suppose its just a matter of time and im sure thisbreak will make us realise whether its worth us staying togethe ror not.

Thanks for your help ben ;o)

[MrBen5]

Wow Nat, that has made me feel good. Your the first person to say they understand me :) .

[nat_84]

lol - nice to hear a mans point of view too - and i also know what u mean about probably not turning a girl down whilst being on a break - im worried about myself and my boyfriend in those situations!

[whiskeysheri]

Hi nat, hun!

I'm in a long-distance relationship, but we've been on a few breaks in our time. Ours included no phone calls as that's usually how we 'spend time together' during the week anyway. We once went for two months without seeing each other and just met up at the airport on the day we were due to go on holiday... we argued about half an hour after we got there! :o) LOL!

Breaks don't really work for us as they don't really resolve our issues, but then we both get a lot of 'me' time during the week.

Our relationship sounds a lot like yours, it's a 'love/hate' thing. When we get on, we get on really well and I won't even go into what it's like when we don't.

Hope it works out for you both, babe. Let us know xxx

[~admarlow~]

i was in a relationship like that once and in the end it was getting me down so I shipped her back off to sweden :( it was VERY hard at the time but now I know it was the right thing to do!