How soon is too soon to get married?

[Amia]

Just wondering what other people's opinions are on this type of thing. Also is it wise to move in with someone after say 6 months? Bearing in mind we have been friends for a number of years?

[ANUSHIKA]

I think its all down to how you and your partner feel.My boyfriend and I moved in together 2 months after meeting at work , I was engaged at the time and had been with my ex for 2 1/2 years.So naturally everyone including my parents said it was wrong and it would not work out as we hadn't even been friends beforehand but we are still together nearly 4 years down the line and we have lived together for most of that 4 years.I really do believe that if it feels right and you want it then just go for it.

[katejess]

I agree with Anushika...I met my husband in the middle of October and by December we had decided to get married. He moved in shortly after we announced the engagement and we haven't been apart since and that will be 8 years in October! Go with your gut instinct.....it worked for us.

[Lennon]

Yep, I'm in full agreement with the other 2! As corny as it sounds - follow your heart. I met my boyfriend on the phone of all places, met up with him after 2 weeks, moved in together after 5 months and have now been together for 2.5 years and we've been living together for 2 years. We have a mortgage, our parents have been on holiday together (they get on so well - mad huh?) and we will definately be getting married in the next 2 years. There are no set rules or guidelines you must follow - do what you feel is right. My bloke's mum got re-married after 6 months and they've now been together 11years.

[Amia]

Wow, I'm impressed!! I was expecting a much more negative response. I no longer feel such freak wanting to live with him as soon as we possibly can! Ta very much

[treaclefight]

how well things work out and how long they last is more to do with the attutude you have towards each other than how long you have known each other. alot of the girls i grew up with had arranged marriages, not the forced type that we hear horror stories about. the girls involved had their parents support and help to find men who were prepared to make the sacrifices and commitments necessary to make a marriage work, who would provide well for their wives and children and accept gratefully what their wives offered them. 15 years on, not one of them has an unhappy marriage, they've had financial problems, bereavements, redundancies, all the things that my exes have used as excuses to stop trying and go home to their mummies, but their determination to have happy, successful marriages has got them through. in my own (admittedky rather battle scarred) mind, i think you need a few years to see if this new partner is someone who can stand up to the pressures life will throw at you both, but the experiences of my schoolfirends show that this is not necessary if you have the right attitude. best of luck, i will be expecting my invite :-)

[tracymort]

life's too short to worry about what others think. just do what feels right. our first son was born on our 1st anniversary of being together! now we have 2 boys and will get married next year (saving up for ages!). we lived together from the day we kissed! we had been friends beforehadnfor about a year though.

[ChrisPBacon]

Not a day under 65.

[gilf]

I agree, I met my wife and we moved in together after 2 months and got married a year later. It always felt right not like it had in the past with other girlfriends, it just felt natural.

[nykkieberry]

I really think it takes three years to know someone is 'right' although they can feel like the 'one' from the start. Judging from experience and observing my many friends, after three years it's either make or break - sometimes it lingers for four years while you summon up the courage to split - but most people get engaged, have a child or split up at a three year point. It seems to be a natural cycle of relationships and human phases of growth and understanding. Give it three years and you can bet your bottom dollar that the magic is still very much there or the rots setting in. Be with someone how you want to be with them but not for too short a time or too long. x Good luck and fingers crossed for magic!

[ipek]

Another positive response, I'm afraid...! :-)

Met my current hubby in December, he moved in the following June - well to be more precise, he just never went home again. We passed the critical 4.5 year barrier (my longest time with anyone) then it just seemed right to get married. Been together 14 years now and as this is my 3rd marriage, so something must be right this time!

He is also my best friend, we have never had an argument (never needed to) and whatever life chucks at us, we share it - good or bad. I can't say that about any of the other partners I've had.

Go with your instincts......and enjoy!

[coggles]

This is going to sound 'slushy' too I'm afraid! My husband and I met just over 11 years ago and I knew instantly that he was 'the one'. He felt the same way and proposed 11 weeks after we met, while on holiday. I had just bought a place, so he sold his and we moved in together. We got married 14 months after we met and have just had a party with both sets of families (we all get on brilliantly) to celebrate our 10th wedding anniversary. After years of trying and lots of heartache, we now have two beautiful, healthy children and still act like a couple of newly-weds. We are great mates, laugh a lot (and support each other when things don't go quite to plan), and although we may not look exactly as we did 11 years ago, we still fancy each other!! Sorry..... I shall just go and get the sick bucket! I think, if you TALK to each other before committing, about what your hopes and dreams are etc., and you know 'in your heart' then go for it! Good luck to you both.

[Greedyfly]

I met my boyfriend and moved in with him within 3 months. we have been living together since, not a single argument! we also work together and theres a 7 yr age gap - if your meant to be together, your meant to be together. You just know!

[SarahW]

Marriage is a big commitment, much bigger than people seem to think it is these days. That's why so many people get divorced... they follow their hearts too easily and then realise later that they made a BIG mistake. You ideally shouldn't get married too soon... I say give it a few years, definitely -- believe it or not, it takes much longer than just a half year to really get to know your partner. I've been with mine for 2 years, and I'm still learning things about him, good and bad. You're still very much in the "honeymoon" stage of your relationship, where everything seems perfect and you haven't had any real arguments. Like I said, definitely give it time, or you may regret it!