whats wrong with me

[havinmysay]

hi i feel really stupid for telling u this but lately iv been really scared of going out and feel that everyone is staring and talking about me i feel like im going paranoid anyone else ever felt like this

[bobtheturkey]

yeah im thinking it might be the fact i tuck my tank top into my underpants

[Hellion]

Aw Havinmysay don't feel stupid. I sympathise I often used to feel paranoid but it was actually premenstual made worse if I was stressed about things. I went through early menopause triggered by pregnancy and thankfully I never feel that way anymore. However it's a horrible feeling and all I could ever do was 1) tell myself I was being silly and 2) owning up to friends that I felt that way....which was when I discovered lots of women often feel like this.
Talk to a friend and ask her to go out with you - sometimes facing up to a fear is the best way of confronting it, if you give in to it it can get worse and take over your life.

Big Hug X
((((((((((((hug)))))))))))))

[havinmysay]

thanks hellion im not as bad when out with family and friends its when im on my own my chest feels really tight and i panic its good to no im not on my own xx

[babydust]

the longer you stay in the worse it is going to be it seems you are suffering from panic attacks. has something happened to you lately to trigger this?

[babydust]

if you let it go on you could end uo with agroraphobia

[lindapinda]

My friend's sister had those feelings too.Her family persuaded her to go to her doctor,and after going on a course of mild anti-depressants,she felt much more confident and more like her old self.

[havinmysay]

babydust i cant think of anything that has happened and i do go out but its just got to the point of dreading going out and thinking everyone is staring and laughing at me

[Eve]

Awww honey, don't feel stupid.

I've had this in the past to a certain degree, I have a problem with seretonin levels in my head, i suppose a sort of lifelong clinical depression in a way.

It can be very confusing and awful when it happens as there is no outward reason for it, just a chemical imbalance. I'm on medication now to correct it and which I will probably be on for life and things are much better :)

The best thing is to talk about it, the Samaritans are great if you want to speak to someone that way first.

http://www.samaritans.org.uk/

A good GP can also be a fantastic help, just be honest with them, don't be scared or embarrassed, as there are all sorts of ways they can help. Writing things down can help as it's always difficult to say what you want and everything you want when you're there. Maybe even send it to them in advance so you get more out of your appointment.

Can a friend or family member come with you? Maybe get a taxi door to door. Don't force things, if it's really bad ring and ask to speak to someone and explain your situation otthem and ask if it would be possible for someone to come out and see you.

There is a lot of help out there but you will also need to put a lot of effort in yourself for example going to appointments and collectiong any prescriptions which may help. There may be a period of trial and error to find what helps you best and it may take a while to feel better but if you try to help yourself and let others help you then you will get there honey.

If you feel any worse of have anymore harmful thoughts then your local casualty should have someone there you can talk to and where you can feel safer.

Hope this helps xxx

[babydust]

MY SISTER HAD THE PROBLEM IT LITERALLY HAPPENED overnight but the best thing you can do is sort it asap before it gets worse i wish you luck!! best thing to do is make sure you always are out with people you trust like family or a best mate dont be cooped up in the house for house on your own. and talk to someone too : )

good luck : )