Keeping in touch with ex's

[spk]

When you start seeing somebody knew, would you tell an ex that you split up with a year ago? Why would you tell them, is it any of their business? Is it because you want to rub their nose in it?

[admarlow]

I though everybody pretended all their Ex's were dead, that normal right? Isn't it?, yea Im sure it is.......


(Mornin SPK xxx)

[spk]

Mornin toots. Im still havin issues... I want to kapow his ex. I think I need to arrange for her to disappear x

[China Doll]

No, what business is it of theirs? They're not part of your life anymore and you are not part of theirs. (And why would you want to rub their nose in it?! If I ever wanted to do that I would suspect that I was not completely over them).

I'm with Addy I have to say... exes are exes for a reason and they stay in the past.

Why'd you ask Spk? Something on your mind m'dear or purely hyperthetical? If it's the latter then see answer up there ^^^^^ If' it's the former then keep your chin up Tiddler xx

[4getmenot]

If you're still mates with them then it would be no different than telling any of your other mates

[tradey]

whats it got to do with an ex wouldnt tell them naff all,but if kids were involved then yep before they told them

[admarlow]

Just say the word and Ill book the Virgin Express to bonnie Scotland, stopping off on the way at B&Q for the tape, cable ties, hack saws and bin liners, NOBODY winds up my friends.....

[whiffey]

Exs can behave very strangely. Having been unceremoniously dumped, I took up with somone else, and ex couldn't stay away, trunking around, turning up in the middle of the night. Some people don't want you, but don't want anybody else to have you either !

You don't need to tell them, they find out.

[admarlow]

... not from the bottom of Lock Ness they don't.

[spk]

cheers guys. see the thing is, its not me, its my new beau- he phoned his ex that he split up with a year ago (she dumped him) to tell her that he was seeing me, and I cant see why as I dont think she has any reason to know. I havent told my ex that Im seeing someone, because I dont think its anything to do with him, why would I tell him?

I just wasnt sure if Im being the wierd one or he is..

[China Doll]

Have you asked him why he did it Spk? Perhaps there's a good reason....

[4getmenot]

well are they good mates then?

[spk]

He said he just wanted to be honest and tell her before someone else did, and he didnt want her to see us out and feel uncomfortable, why should he be concerned about her comfort though?

Its really difficult to talk to him about it without looking like a psycho, and I dont want to have a row, because if I do then he wont tell me, and I would rather know the truth even if I dont like it, than him not tell me because hes worried about my reaction. If that makes sense !

[warpig1]

spk, I am with you on this one, I find that strange and unfortunately it would leave me with a nagging thought at the back of my mind as to his reasons. Perhaps it is completely innocent and he is just a bit stupid ( man thing ha, ha) and genuinely doesent think he has done anything wrong but you need to resolve this for your own peace of mind.

good luck.

[4getmenot]

Or have you ever thought that maybe he is saying it so she goes away and leaves him alone. I�d be quite happy that he was telling his ex about me, rather than not saying anything at all, think of it that way :-)

[spk]

Sorry no kids, and no, they arent still friends xx

[spk]

Thanks for the answers its helping x

[admarlow]

http://static.flickr.com/62/179691923_6be8f614 97_m.jpg

...but seriously spk, I personally think that is a little strange, and whats even stranger is that he told you about it..........unless he did in while you were there!!!!

[Blyss]

maybe your new bf just wanted "closure!" to pun an american phrase.

[spk]

lmao admarlow !


Nah he didnt do it when I was there..

But to be honest I dont think he is over her and Im really worried about it. I have tried to talk to him and he says hes really happy with me and wouldnt go back but I cant get rid of the horrible lump in my throat about it and Ive fallen for this guy. :O(

Guess I just feel a bit blue :O(

[noxlumos]

It's not that odd,in fact it's quite a compliment to you as it politely underlines for the ex that he's now fully moved on and is not interested in her in any way as he's going out with you and you are important enough to mention to her. Relax and don't be jealous, the man's done a nice thing.
Look at it without jealousy and insecurity and it'll become clear.He likes you, a lot.