my 48 year old brother is an alchoholic he has lived with my mum since his divorce that was two years ago since then he has been to detox twice but to no avail. im so worried because he now has cirrosis of the liver and he keeps falling over and has very limited use of his legs and it seems to be getting worse by the day. it not just him im worried about its my 74 year old mum who has to care for him. i do what i can but i just feel its not enough the doctors just dont want to know. if anyone knows how i can get help or knows anyone in the same position as me and can advise i would be grateful
its very sad for everyone especially your mum, she shouldnt have to do this at her age, but the harsh truth is that only your brother can help himself now, did he come off the booze for a while ? if not he prob need to be detained for at least ten days to become clean and free of booze. sorry to be blunt, if he doesnt stop he will die.
but like i say, you can support him but only he can help himself, your mum should kick him out, it will force him into a choice,hopefully thre right one. good luck to all of yoy .
yes mate your in a no win situation and i think your gonna have to be cruel to be kind! as devilwoman said, your mom shouldnt be looking after him at her time of life?
i am sorry i have no "great" answer for you but my thoughts are with your family at this time!
Your brother needs telling in no uncertain terms,he is killing himself,but as devilwoman says only he can help himself,but he needs to do it quickly,he must admit he is an alcholic,but he must also want to get help,it is no good you wanting him to get it,it must come from him,this is so hard on your mum,could she just throw him out ? i doubt it, I hope nox answers this because he has had his battles with drink and come out the other side, I wish you lots of luck, Ray
Your brother is in self destruct mode and there will be little you can do to help him. I should think that by the fact he is losing use of his legs that he is probably past the point of no return. My son in law gave up drink and has been left with alcoholic epilepsy. My thoughts are with you and your mother. I think all you can do is try and offer your mother support a really dreadful situation for you all.xx
thanks guys for your views
you both say exactly what iknow is for the best
its nice to know that some people out there care
because its ripping me apart thinking about it on my own
I agree with devilwoman and RB. It is really up to your brother to seek the help he so badly needs. They doesn't mean that you don't give him all the support you can - which I am sure you already do. Has he tried AA? If you go to the Citizens Advice Bureau they can put you in touch with local support groups so you can perhaps coax him to go.
Only he can help himself here (that is probably why the doctors have given up on him) so give him all the encouragement by stressing how it is affecting your mother.
As ruge says there is no magic elixier, but opening up on here will I hope relieve some of the stress that you are suffering. Best wishes to you and your family.
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