Class Act

[Roughquest]

Has anyone out there in ye olde AB world been out with someone or married someone who was of a higher class than they were (better job, pay, car, house, private education etc)? I know it should not matter if you like someone anyway, but just wondered on peoples experiences, similar to a Cinderella story scenario.

Thanks,
RQ xx

[raysparx1]

Hello RQ,

I really don't like the class thing,nobody is better than me and I am not better than anyone else,but having said that my wife is a lot more educated than I am, I am a thickie that left school at 15 without taking any exams,my wife spoke 3 languages fairly well,took and passed all her GCEs her grammar is perfect,mine is terrible,but we have been married 35 years and are very happy , Ray xx

[Roughquest]

Ahhhh, thanks Ray that is very comforting to hear....very nice story.

RQ xx

[noxlumos]

Although I did academically and financially ok, my wife is "higher class" than me if there is such a thing as class. She was privately educated, speaks beautifully has upper class friends, wheras I was born in relative poverty and can happily say never went to many polo matches when I was a kid. Lol.
Never made any difference to us at all, in fact the relative novelties of our two previously different ways of life made the first couple of years extra interesting I think, plus my wife is super grounded and a very nice person who would never judge anyone on accent or looks alone and is certainly not of the opinion that anyone is better than anyone else.

[devilwoman]

raysparx is right, my auntie always said to me when i was growing up, always remember no one is any better than you are, but also remember you are no better than anyone else. money certainly doesnt make a person, money just means you can have whatever you want. a persons friendliness, kindess and sincerity ia much more important.

[Eve]

My ex fiancee was public school educated and his very large family are very well off and lived in a huge house in the country.

They had a very upper class attitude - tory dos, going to fox hunts, having lots of people with double barelled names round for soirees etc...

It was at first assumed that I was public school educated as I was doing a law degree and can speak a number of languages, speak well etc... Was interesting to listen to the awful view they had of people like me educated at the local comp before they found out, didn't think we were able to read or write.

I was also told in no uncertain terms that our children would go to a public school whether or not I wanted them to and if I thought differently then I'd have the whole family against me.

Remember getting shouted at when i got caught reading The Sun once!

[Eve]

Saying that i've also been out with guys who have been homeless, addicts, in prison etc... in the past.

Remember one guy who was a lot older then me and I met when I was still at college. He used to write to me and ring me as he'd never know where he'd be. Then the calls and letters stopped suddenly. About a year later I saw him again. Wasn't quite sure to react til he cornered me and gave me a big hug. Said he'd been ringing and writing to me for ages but got no reply and was always told on the phone that I wasn't there by my parents. Felt really bad.

[Carakeel]

I grew up in an extraordinary environment and with a very loving family, I was educated in excellent international schools, got my degree and am tri-lingual. My parents� friends came from all walks of life and a variety of races & religions, from leading international politicians, Bishops, famous actors / singers / artists / musicians/ songwriters and dancers to market stall traders, shop assistants, waiters and the occasional circus clown. Some were often unemployed and out of money. They all came to the same parties and they all had a great time. I think this was because my parents treated everyone as equals ... just as human beings and friends! To them everyone was special.
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[Carakeel]

continuation: I was married twice, the first time to a man who had plenty of money, top job etc. but he was a bully and had NO heart! My second husband had a lot less money, a good heart but sadly no backbone! Now I am with a man who has a true heart of gold! My present partner left school at 16 and after several respectable but low paid jobs, he formed his own company which he ran successfully for 13 years. Unfortunately with the break-up of his marriage came the loss of his company. So, when I met him he was working as a taxi driver with very little money coming in. I was used to city types, he was a countryman. He had a burgeoning interest in art and so on the first day we met I introduced him to a wonderful sculpture garden where there are over 360 sculptures from international artists. This seems to have sparked a flame within him. We had such a lovely day together. I felt so at ease with him, even though looks wise he was a far rougher type than I was used to. Since that day about 20 months ago we have built up the most wonderful relationship, based on a deep sense of love and respect for each other. We�ve shared our home for 14 months and to this day have never been cross with each other, despite occasional differing opinions. We are both very easy-going and respectful of each other's past experiences and we both really appreciate what we have found in each other. Today my RATTER is a recognised and respected metal artist, as well as a professional carer and I am so very proud of him. But do I see a class divide in our relationship? No, I am like my parents ... I do not look at what a person has other than what is in his / her heart and mind. A fairytale story? Perhaps, in a grown up sort of way.