Am i getting in over ny head with an office romance?

[babyface29]

My head is complete mush. A few months ago i got my dream job, when i went for my interviews i waited in the office and a good looking guy who i thought i recognised said hi, i felt butterflies. I started my job and i realised he was a few years older at my highschool, the guy all the girls fancied. We went away overnight on business, we had a really good time and got on so so well. Since then we have been outrageously flirting with each other, spending lunches together etc I think io am falling for him and he has said the same, Our work involves us travelling to varoius places together (not usually overnight). Here comes the bad bit, he has a girlfriend of nearly 8 years and they live together. He has told me he is not happy and doesn't want a family or to get married. UI have been with my partner for a year or so, recently moved in with him, im really confused by how i feel. We have tried avoiding each other and keeping it purley on a personal basis but there is too much of a spark. All we do is think about each other and the situation. We both care for our partners deeply and do not want to hurt anyone, this is all we ever talk about. Today after a meetinbg, with our usual flirting and footsie under the table we ended up alone in the room and kissed, feeling nervous by the tension i started to giggle and it ruined the whole thing, there was silence in the car all the way home, until he said, that now we have done that and we felt nothing we know it wont work, thing is i felt something and think he did too but didn't want to say as i had laughed. WHAT DO I DO!!! PLEASE

[Miss Inquiry]

Ohh dilema.....I feel for you twinkle.
How guilty did you feel after the kiss? How solid is your relationship with your man? I am a firm believer that we don't stray unless there is a problem. I have cheated in the past and felt no guilt, wrong relationship, but now I would never dream of cheating on my man as I know it would hurt him so much and I just simply couldn't do it.
With regards to what do you tell your colleague, if you really feel for him, I think you should just be honest and tell him how you feel, what will you loose? Ok you might get embarassed, but if you don't say anything it will keep niggling at you. Whatever happens I hope not too many people get hurt.... and remember the grass is never greener, you jump ovr the fence and smack your face on the concrete.

[badgerchops]

he just said that cos you laughed. he was trying to save face i think. you like him too much and so no point staying in this second rated relationship. that goes for both of you. i think you should, when in a jokey flirting conversation next, say 'i wish i hadnt of giggled as it wasnt funny. you obviously made me so nervous it was a bit scary'

see what he says.