Pointing out ex's

[I-say]

If you have been with your b/f for over a year, and he still talks about women he had sex with in the past, or points out to you women he had been with (even though they never acknowledged him) What would you say he is playing at?

[daisy48]

Morning I-say, I would say he's trying to make you jealous for some reason. Or he could be attempting to prove he's a stud..lol. You should ask him what he's trying to prove considering these women don't even acknowledge him. On the other hand,he could be insecure. Have a talk to him and get it out into the open:-)

[ummmm]

Are you ready?

I would say that he is a complete tw@t who is looking for an ego boost by making you jealous!!!

He is an insecure little knob head who is not comfortable in his own skin and is trying to make you feel bad because of his own inadequacies so that you think that he is all that and you end up thinking less of yourself!!!

Get rid now....These are the first signs of an emotional control freak and all he will do is Fcuk your head up!!!!

I talk from experience!!!

[ummmm]

I started typing before I had seen daisy's answer....but there you go....we agree....except my language is a little worse!!!!!

[jno]

not good behaviour. Is he 18 or so? He sounds like it. Either he's boasting (or just fantasising), or he's unable to let go of old relationships. I don't think either is necessarily a hanging offence if your relationship is otherwise satisfactory but if it's upsetting you (it would sure upset me) I'd tell him to Stop It At Once. But how exactly do you feel about it?

[drestie]

In addition to what's already been said, I think it's probably not a very good sign if his multiple exes won't even acknowledge him. One, I understand - we all have bad breakups, but if it's all of them....

[eyeshade]

dump him, better men that that out there, he sounds very imature and not worth the worry!

[RATTER15]

I agree with ummmmm, I wouldn't have worded quite the same way, lol!!!

Good on you ummmmm.

[Carakeel]

Well said ummmm. I-say, don't waste your time one a guy like that! He just isn't worth it and you can do soooo much better!!! He obviously has no respect for you, which is one of the most important things in a good relationship. If he cared for you at all he wouldn't be treating you like this. There is nothing wrong with partners talking about their exes occasionally, but the way he is doing this is totally wrong. So, take heart, remember your own worth and dump the little slime ball! Best wishes :o)

[Octavius]

Jno makes a fair point, but one could assume that as you are raising it here that you are not too happy with it. You need to look at how you really feel in general terms about this bloke and whether he is becoming insecure about your relationship enough to keep re-emphasising he has what it takes to get it on with lots of women, and you need to be grateful he is with you/keep on your toes. Or in retrospect, he is a complete fabricator of the truth and making it all up.

Is this a regular occurrence, or does it only happen when you say something similar?

Whether or not any of the above, you need to challenge him about and really put a stop to this adolescent bravado and tell him that it really isn�t that impressive as half the ladies he is pointing out look like they might have genital warts.

[raysparx1]

I-say,

He is a twonk, a wazzock, a nob head, a winkle, a wally, in fact I think he is very immature maybe he has had all these women in his head when he was having afive knuckle shuffle, get rid.

[ummmm]

Morning Ray...You have a great way with words

[raysparx1]

hello ummmm, I think your answer was spot on, mine was very immature. xx

[Octavius]

Well, now steady on here peeps. We need to remember that this is I-say�s (long term) partner and there may be two sides to this story. Yes, this side of the story tells us that this man is acting like a bit of a twonk, but let�s not be too judgemental. For the moment, the only name calling we should really assume is: insensitive.

Crikey, if I wrote about my wife on here, half of you would have her drowned on a ducking stool!

[raysparx1]

Octavius, I must say you are the voice of logical reason, maybe I-say should carry a spanner with her and if he comes out with this rubbish ,give his gonads a whack he will soon see reason. ducking stool would be very handy on here at times, we also need a stone seller on the sidelines, and public executions.

[ummmm]

Over a year is not long term. They should still be in the loved up phase. Doing this sort of thing at this stage in their relationships leads me to believe that he is just starting to chip away at her. Five years time she'll be so insecure she won't want to look in the mirror

[Octavius]

It depends on your perspective, for I-Say, this may well be a long term relationship, or at least, the longest (hence I put the term in brackets).

[RATTER15]

I agree Ray, you are being very immature, now grow up!! or I'll tell your Mum!!

[crete]

he sounds very immature, is he aware you find his behaviour a problem ?

[RATTER15]

Octavius, stop pussy footing around!!
lets lynch the lot of them and have done with it!!!!!!!!!!!!

Lets have some discipline!!!

[Pippa68]

I have to say that if this were my bloke he wouldn't have any goolies by now.