should i call her

[babydust]

i have a sister who really is the most negative caustic person has no ambition or nothing (lovley). i have not spoken to her for around 4 months as last time she degraded me about everything from what i did that day to my general life (shes like that with everyone) being the season of goodwill and suchlike should i let it be and speak to her/send xmas card. has anyone here had the same problem?

[Scarlett]

I have a similar relationship with my sister. She is probably deeply unhappy with her lot, jealous of you, and is taking it out on you. Send her a card. Get her a present. If she is still a cow to you, at least you can say you have tried, and turned the other cheek!

[Eve]

I'm with Scarlett, send her a card then maybe if she sorts herself out she'll remember you kept in touch whatever and encourage her to get back in touch and maybe you can build a friendship with her.

[babydust]

thanks scarlett sometimes sisters are a right pain in the a$$. I have always supported her in every way including money wise i always get her and her child things at xmas and birthdays. but when i buy things she just says what the fcuk did you buy me and my son things for?

you cant help some people :(

[-Zorro-]

babyD...there are people who would love to talk to their sister/daughter/mother/cousin/friend tonite who they havent talked to for ages...but due to some madmad they cant.....

give her a ring

[denisdenis]

I'm with Zorro.Call.

[babydust]

Thx Zorro i will however when i last called her her son said to me mummy doesnt want to talk to you i burst out crying lucky i was on my way to the pub at that point. i said to him what!!!!!!!!!!!! and he repeated and put the phone down nice evening! lol

[unruliejulie]

my brother stopped speaking to me 2 years ago for a very silly reason. Im not the type that likes that sort of ill feeling between siblings so i tried and tried on numerous occasions to make amends, especially at xmas time, even though i hadnt done anything wrong. A year ago i made a decision that i wasnt going to put myself through any more hurt and have left him alone ever since. Its hard but if they dont want to know, i found out to my cost that there is absolutely nothing you can do about it. i now have my pride, that he diminished on many occasions, restored firmly in place. All the very best with whatever you decide to do. I would say though, dont give up until you feel there really is no further you can go with it.X

[joko]

get her some 5HTP and some rescue remedy from a health food shop

they are herbal mood lifters and may make her feel better, and less angry at the world.

[daisy48]

Family's eh? What are we gona do with em? I've got 3 sister's and one brother. 2 of my sister's dont bother with the rest of us. I gave up trying to please them years ago so Im glad I've still got my other lovely sister and brother. I go with the other's BD,send your sister a card and if she does'nt contact you look on it as her loss not yours:-)

[Segilla]

I was very impressed when somebody related a story about his Mother and her sister They had quarrelled and ignored each other for many years.
Something happened, they made friends again and thereafter frequently regretted what tthey then called "the wasted years.
Keep trying!
Indeed, consider sending this story to her.