Am I insecure?

[Roughquest]

Why do i fall in love so easily, and why is it I am never the one that finishes relationships? I need to change some things, but not sure what exactly, I am not scared of showing emotion at all but I feel I need to change some things so the outcome will be better - if that makes sense?

[##Wardy##]

My love wherever you are
Whatever you are, don't lose faith
I know it's gonna happen someday
To you
Please wait
Please wait
Wait, don't lose faith
You say that the day never arrives
And it's never seemed so far away
But I know it's gonna happen someday
To you
Please wait
Please wait
Wait, don't lose faith
Please wait
Please wait
Please, don't lose faith
Don't lose faith

You say that the day never arrives
And it seems so far away
But I know it's gonna happen someday
Someday to you
To you
Please wait

[MrBen5]

Hmmm, what you should do is ask for reasons why they are splitting up with you. Look for a pattern That way you can learn what it is that makes the guys wanna split. Are you a ladette or do you tend to have more male friends than female? I dont think your falling in love too easily. Everyone is different. There might not be anything up with you at all, it might be the lads your meeting. Until you actually find out why they are finishing with you , it will only carry on as it is...

[Roughquest]

Wardy - that was just so precious, I dont know what to say....I am rendered speechless....

[Roughquest]

Most men just dont tell me, they just dont contact me ever again lol....and I am forever left wondering in a daze.....why is it men are unable to give an explanation these days -if they dont want to see someone again why not just say...

[joanne713]

dunno babe, i am a sucker for a guy that is nice to me, but then they get what they want and run. never mind huh? what doesnt kill us makes us stronger xx

[ummmm]

Do you text or ring too much?

[curly-milf]

probably because it is the easier way for them roughquest

is it not better to be warm loving and able to show attention than, being cold and emotionless, i,m sure you'll find your solution and take care

[Roughquest]

No I wait for them to contact me usually....

[ummmm]

What about when you get into a relationship. Do you ask where they are, when you'll see them etc.?

[Eve]

Maybe you are attracting them to fill the emptiness in yourself if that makes sense from our msn chats, something to fill the gap.

Maybe you need to get learn to love yourself and be happy with yourself so that any relationship is an added pleasure rather than something to fill the emptiness and make things right.

xxxx

[Roughquest]

No Ummmm, not at all, Im quite independent and do like my own company and have a good social life etc, I do have a few male friends though, could that be a problem?

[ummmm]

For some it is. I haven't really had a problem with that and I spend the majority of my time with men.

Are these long term relationships?

I mean, if someone stopped ringing me or texting me after two weeks I wouldn't be phased by that at all.

[Roughquest]

Oh Jenna, every relationship I value, and as the saying goes I love like I have never been hurt, always have, I dont feel 'empty' at all - but I still dont understand......everyday I get people say to me "I cant believe you are single!" lol....and that really, really annoys me, I feel like Bridget Jones :)

[PinkFizz]

Hi honey - do you come across as too independent then??

[Roughquest]

No, they have been months not weeks Ummmm, but in regard to your comment that you are not phased if its just been a short term thing, does it not leave you wondering why suddenly they dont contact you ? Just curious....

[Roughquest]

Hello PinkFizz, personally I dont think I do come across as too independent, I dont know to be honest, I try not to, but sometimes its hard to find a happy medium I guess. If you are not independent it can be seen as clingy or needy, it is very difficult to gauge....

[ummmm]

To be honest it hasn't really happened to me. I've had people stop texting but it tends to be because I haven't shown any interest.

I don't know, do they give you any explanation?

[PinkFizz]

Is there any of these ex's that you could possibly txt and say:

"look.Ive moved on now but I was just curious - why did you actually end it?"

Is that possible??

[noxlumos]

Hi RQ, Can you give me a list of all the things in common that your ex's have? I'm thinking maybe you are attracting a negative type for some reason, perhaps even subconsciously targeting them. We all tend to repeat behaviour and sometimes we psychologically seek to recreate what we are familiar with, so we seek the same weakness in future partners we found in past ones even though that will make us miserable. Therefore identifying what we are subconsciously attracting helps us to consciously avoid them and thus we break the pattern.

[jno]

I think nox is spot on... Once or twice is coincidence, but if it's really happening a lot more than that, then you need to investigate. You are picking Mr Wrong, and doing it over and over. Why? What danger signals are you missing? What do they have in common that other men - the ones that stay faithful to other women, your friends, say - don't have? Are you perhaps actually drawn to men who treat you badly? Does this in any way reflect your parents' relationship? (We all very frequently find ourselves looking for our fathers'/mothers' characteristics, good or bad). You're not necessarily causing the breakup of relationships by doing something wrong, but perhaps the something wrong is your choice of men in the first place?