Manipulation Street

[dot.hawkes]

is the blurb they are using for Corrie this week, when did u last manipulate your bloke? (Partner) Mine was on Christmas Eve when i made him buy me a bottle of baileys even though i had finished with him for ever, it took 'til New years day for him to realise i was serious and despite his sudden total understanding of where i am coming from i am resisting his grovelling. Power to all our friends as devilwoman would sing.

[angel-cake]

Oh dear dot, what on earth has happened between you both??

[dot.hawkes]

he was a prat i came to my senses after 17 years

[ummmm1]

Manipulate.....hmmmmm.....I do not understand that word!!

[dot.hawkes]

basically, you want, they pay, they think it was their idea.

[raysparx1]

dot, you can manipulate me any time you want.

[chicklin]

'You want. they pay' - are we talking about anything in particular here or are we talking generally? (I'm a bit slow sometimes - sorry ) :o {

[China Doll]

Hey Dotty,

Long time no see....

I'd say I was sorry that you've split with your bloke but it sounds like you're pleased you did. Tho if you're anything like me you could well be putting a brave face on it to the world....

Anyway, to answer your question, I was very good at manipulating people in my youth, (it's a wonderful characteristic I've inherited from my father, along with a perverse sense of humour and anti-social tendencies... I'm a joy to know). But I don't do it any more, got on the recieving end of it a few years back and learn a crucial lesson about reaping what I sowed.

Anyhow, I hope you're alright and keeping your chin up. You've always seemed a pretty resiliant person to me so I don't expect you're wallowing or allowing yourself to feel bad for too long.... Just make sure you do allow yourself to sometimes if the need takes. Look after yourself m'dear xx

[dot.hawkes]

lol China i am deffo not bothered he has phoned me 3 times today and though I am speaking to him I am taking bags of no notice of anything he says cos he is selfish and thoughtless and not good enough for me lol!!!!!

Anyway i am focusing on my job for a while now!! Gotta get where i want to be by this summer then it is plain sailing til returement in 2025!!!!!

[China Doll]

New job? What you up to now then?

As long as you're ok is all. Hey, what can you earn working in retail in a year if you don't mind my asking?

[dot.hawkes]

we are moving into a fantastic new purpose built Debs in march and hopefully my earnings will reach �21K by Christmas if i make my staff work harder and train them harder. Its not a fortune but it will see me through. I just hope the estimates are right and that will be my top line, grrrrr at the tax and insurance i guess lol there is always the opportunity to earn more when there are commission and bonuses to make.

[China Doll]

I really think I picked the wrong career and it's time I had a little life overhaul this end....

2007 is going to see the start of a stress free China....

(Yeah, right!)

[dot.hawkes]

never too late to change and focus on yourself, we spend alot of time sorting other people out and then they vanish for one reason or another, unless you are sorted in your own life how can you be a rock to other people, it doesn't work like that does it?

[dot.hawkes]

as my mother used to tell people who were of no help,
'You're neither use nor ornament' (usually my dad lol)

[China Doll]

That's a great expression, never heard it but I love it!

Well I tend to agree. Now if I could just focus that would be a great bloody start....

As far as sorting other people out goes, I don't bother. I'm there if you need me and in the background if you don't but it only applies to friends and family. Romantically I'd rather stay single than be someone elses back bone again ever. So it looks like it's me and a million cats for the future... less trouble that way ;0)