whats a girl to do?

[Amiira]

I had previously been on AB asking about my on going dilemas with my long term partner. (now ex since last year) I thought i had got myself sorted (head wise!) but now he has started contacting me again. I am too polite to ignore correspondance from anyone (him included) but feel he is now messing my head about. Saying he misses me etc. I still having feelings for him, but the relationship would go nowhere. Should I just ignore him? Dont know what he is playing at really, so some male advice would be helpful.

[ummmm]

ohhhhh Amiira........I know exactly what you are going through.....mines doing the same to me, telling me he loves me and misses me. Not sure what you should do...It depends how you feel. I don't love mine anymore....I want to love him but I don't....It makes me quite sad when I think about it.....I just don't love him anymore. I don't think you should ignore him....Only reply to the texts that you can be honest in.....I don't know what else to say...

I hope you are well...xxx

[ELVIS68]

Don`t let him know you still have feelings for him,tell him that you are finished as a couple, if need be.. tell him you`re seeing someone else...that`ll do the trick..good luck

[snagged]

Ammira... I'm in pretty much exactly the same situation as you - but the other way round... I was in two minds as whether to just ignore her... but for better or worse it's not in my nature... so... we are talking... and seeing how things go from there... 'no pressure and no promises on either side'... we are both of the mind that if we don't 'at least' talk now, we may reget it later on... don't know if it's for the best or not but talking is a start... whichever way things may turn out... :o)

[snagged]

Bloody hell ummmm... we need shooting!!

[Amiira]

hi ummm, well you know what I was going through last year. see, part of me loves him still, but a big part of me is angry with him. So then I am annoyed that I replied to his email/text.

I am so weak and pathetic lol.... hope you are ok xx

[wild-bill]

a swift kick in the goolies might make sense
pardon the fordwadness

[Amiira]

too late for that Elvis. Should of asked advice earlier!

[ummmm]

It's not weak.....don't ever look at yourself as weak. We all have feelings and we have no control over how strong they are. It's not a weakness....it's a positive. The way you are makes you a nice person, it makes you lovable. If this man is not the right man for you and you know it deep down...try not to feel bad....move on and try and meet Mr Right...


Snagged.....I think I mentioned being shot in another post

[Amiira]

hi snagged, yes I was in 2 minds whether to ignore or reply. But in replying, has now made things worst. As I was getting over him. Grrrr. Note to self.........dont be so bloody nice in future!

[Amiira]

thanks ummmm, he is a complicated man me thinks

[ELVIS68]

Sorry to sound blunt here Amiira...but if you dangle the carrot, the donkey will follow....if you don`t want him to keep following you, drop the carrot :o)

[Amiira]

thanks stewey. Will make a note of that.

[Amiira]

hi elvis, but he contacted me first.

[bigbirdmorg]

oh meet the fockers. you have been sussed amiira. id stop now if i where you or do you want to be EXPOSED. what goes around comes around

[ELVIS68]

So what if he contacted you first, tell him to stop calling /texting you, tell him you`re busy chatting to me on msn, that`ll sort him out

[Amiira]

ok Elvis. Thanks.

[ummmm]

Amiira....don't listen to bigbird.......it's a troll