Bisexual

[m-armite]

Ok, here goes... First of all, i am female, and secondly, have had the odd lesbian feeling in my time, but do consider myself pretty much straight! I have fallen for this guy who is bisexual and it doesn't bother me at all - i am still interested. Has anyone ever been in the same position? I don't know if he has slept with a man before and i know its not really any of my business at this point, but if we were to get together, i assume i still have the right to expect him not to be with anyone else - be it male or female, right? Anyone out there who are/ are not gay/bi etc, all opinions appreciated. Thanks! I feel all a little 'don't know what to do about it'!

[missyR]

Well i don't think it matters whether hes bi or not - if you are looking for commitment then you should expect him not to sleep around and only when you know him more can you find out about his other sexual partners. :o)

[m-armite]

btw, he is 23 - and on here before i have read that people have the opinion most people under 25 are still 'experimenting' - so it could swing both ways - he could turn out gay or straight...

[Panic Button]

No, sorry. A totally straight guy would not dream of experimenting.

[m-armite]

I appreciate your comment, but i think that's pretty unfair - i wouldn't class myself as gay but that doesn't mean to say i haven't 'experimented'... how else are you gonna know?!

[Joe_the_Lion]

You say ALL OPINION appreciated.

I hold no prejudice for straights or gays, but bi's are simply disgusting. To me, bi-sexuals base their entire life on sex. Whilst important, your own emotional security should not be based upon where your next sexual encounter is coming from. All they think about is sex, sex, sex.

Also, it is because of bi-men that HIV and AIDS has entered in to the straight population (blood tranfusions {initially} account for 0.00004 percent!).

It is wrong. A man who does not know where to put it should be hung. A woman who is unsure is simple a sexual pervert. It must be perverted, because most pornography is based on bi-woman.

Avoid him like the plague, stop sleeping with members of your own sex and find a decent loving male who puts having a moral life before sex from anything that has a hole.

Men or woman, not both. There a'int no bi in the Union Jack.

[lector]

presumably you are young, around the age 23?

more experimentation seemingly goes on today, than in the past .... it isn't as taboo etc

so, you have had the odd lesbian feeling or two ... and, even have experimented?

perhaps, that is why the experimentation by this guy does not bother you?

if you do get together, you should lay it on the line .... and make sure that you are both singing from the same sexual orientation sheet !

{I would also get a blood test etc or two}

[missyR]

Is lector wardminter?

[Joe_the_Lion]

Well done whiffey for ruining another thread. You really are becomming a joke on here.

And I bet you 50 pence the only folk to come to your "support" (which I assume you crave) will be of equal calibre.

[lector]

no .... lector is not wardminter ----> I took the thread as genuine ...

I dont get involved

[ummmm]

caz.....you are not alone....I'm with you...

[Panic Button]

I know you don't want to believe me marmite, but it is true what I say about totally straight men.

We WOULD NOT 'experiment' because the thought makes us feel physically sick.

I am not against gays. I used to work in an industry where the gays were in the majority, and I had many gay friends.
I shared a flat with a gay guy for a while. It is not for me and I was never tempted.

If anyone experiments it is because they have gay tendencies, and sure as hell they will come out again in later life.

[noxlumos]

I'm straight, never slept with a man, but the thought doesn't make me feel physically sick and I don't think you can ever rule anything out 100%, so yes I agree with m-armite that a lot of straight people experiment and I also think that everyone left alone without perjeudice from society, religion, culture etc would be bi-sexual to some degree or another. I think if you feel physically sick at the idea of two people making love no matter what their gender or orientation then you have issues with repression to be honest that's nothing to do with being straight.

[m-armite]

Thank you for your comments. Joe, i didn't say i am sleeping with members of the same sex as me - experimenting can mean other things.

And could it be Lector that people are just more honest about their sexuality now than in the past...?

And why would i need a blood test? In my defence, i haven't kissed him yet, let alone jumped into bed with him... which i can assure you i would take responsible measures if, only if it lead to us even being together.

Thank you nox - maybe you think its just what i want to hear, but i think there is a lot of sense in those words.

Thanks for all your comments and support.

[noxlumos]

No, I'm a well known ignorant Sh1te, m-armaite, whose never cared what anyone thinks of my opinion. It's what I genuinely think :)

[LostStar]

Interesting words people. Panic Button - if people experiment and have 'gay tendancies' then so what? If they come out again in later life, then surely that just shows how comfortable they are with themselves and by being honest about their sexual orientaion, they do not then hurt others in the process?

Take a look at this site m-armite:
http://www.thesite.org/sexandrelationships/sex uality/awareness/bisexualmyths

maybe a couple of you others should as well. Quite rightly, its possible for someone to be ''bi for a while and then gay or straight''. Good luck.x