I agree with Paul a soulmate is for life and I also think if that soulmate died you would never move on. I think my granny and grandad might have possibly had that, my nan was tough, nothing phased her, when he died she cried like a baby, and has totally lost her marbles. She wants to die because he isnt around and that to me is what a soulmate would be.
Paul your reasons for fear of commitment are very endearing. I am sure you will make an excellent boyfriend because of this. If only parents relised what they were doing to us eh?